you got into a few dramas with the ladies with the "dear" thing its ok I see where you are. A Tip, whenever you see a lady you say "shes hawt"
some women would love that, many see it as (gawd)
I hope this tip is veiled enough for you to get it.
I was rude to you on another forum and i feel bad. best thing you can do is forget the diff betweeen men and women (except the obvious bits) and treat everyone the same. It sounds crazy but I used that theory to surf at tresles in Cali and it worked!
Smile and be nice. Wait for them to come to you. You wont find love if you chase it, it will smack you on the arse, sometimes its closer than you think.
btw its not me lol
hope that makes sense