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No. I have a co-worker who is senior to me who agreed to present at a conference workshop. Less than a fortnight before the conference, they call in 'sick' for 2 weeks and 'can't do the conference'. I'm the only other one going to the conference so I have to do it. They have done nothing on the workshop. Nothing at all. I would be fired if i did this. Then they send a series of emails and have micro managed 7 hours of a school student's work experience into 15 minute intervals including suggested lunch time topics and allocation of a staff member to introduce and stimulate conversation. Even if this poor innocent 15 year old wanted to do my profession, which honestly they've usually just picked anything for work experience and spend most of their day texting, they are going to be so scared from the micro managing they will change their mind. They even micro managed a morning tea which ended up wasting the department $50. I want to tell them that their behaviour is not ok, but they have a bad temper. I need to be seen to try to deal with their behaviour before I escalate it further, but I'm not sure how
 
No. I have a co-worker who is senior to me who agreed to present at a conference workshop. Less than a fortnight before the conference, they call in 'sick' for 2 weeks and 'can't do the conference'. I'm the only other one going to the conference so I have to do it. They have done nothing on the workshop. Nothing at all. I would be fired if i did this. Then they send a series of emails and have micro managed 7 hours of a school student's work experience into 15 minute intervals including suggested lunch time topics and allocation of a staff member to introduce and stimulate conversation. Even if this poor innocent 15 year old wanted to do my profession, which honestly they've usually just picked anything for work experience and spend most of their day texting, they are going to be so scared from the micro managing they will change their mind. They even micro managed a morning tea which ended up wasting the department $50. I want to tell them that their behaviour is not ok, but they have a bad temper. I need to be seen to try to deal with their behaviour before I escalate it further, but I'm not sure how

Oh noes :( That sure is a tricky spot to be in. They sound like an absolute arse! I used to work in a really small place with no one to talk to about whether my boss at the time requests were fair & normal or not, so I'd ring the dept. of fair trade. I know it's a different name now, Fair work Australia? maybe? But it helps to talk to someone who know the legalities of a workplace & will hopefully have some practical advice. Are you part of a Union?
 
No. I have a co-worker who is senior to me who agreed to present at a conference workshop. Less than a fortnight before the conference, they call in 'sick' for 2 weeks and 'can't do the conference'. I'm the only other one going to the conference so I have to do it. They have done nothing on the workshop. Nothing at all. I would be fired if i did this. Then they send a series of emails and have micro managed 7 hours of a school student's work experience into 15 minute intervals including suggested lunch time topics and allocation of a staff member to introduce and stimulate conversation. Even if this poor innocent 15 year old wanted to do my profession, which honestly they've usually just picked anything for work experience and spend most of their day texting, they are going to be so scared from the micro managing they will change their mind. They even micro managed a morning tea which ended up wasting the department $50. I want to tell them that their behaviour is not ok, but they have a bad temper. I need to be seen to try to deal with their behaviour before I escalate it further, but I'm not sure how

Oh noes :( That sure is a tricky spot to be in. They sound like an absolute arse! I used to work in a really small place with no one to talk to about whether my boss at the time requests were fair & normal or not, so I'd ring the dept. of fair trade. I know it's a different name now, Fair work Australia? maybe? But it helps to talk to someone who know the legalities of a workplace & will hopefully have some practical advice. Are you part of a Union?

I have no idea how to deal with a situation like this, but I wonder - how you can be held responsible for another persons commitment?
 
I feel sick I'm so stressed, will be better after tomorrow, tough day tomorrow to get through, pray for the stressed.
 
I have no idea how to deal with a situation like this, but I wonder - how you can be held responsible for another persons commitment?
Oh noes :( That sure is a tricky spot to be in. They sound like an absolute arse! I used to work in a really small place with no one to talk to about whether my boss at the time requests were fair & normal or not, so I'd ring the dept. of fair trade. I know it's a different name now, Fair work Australia? maybe? But it helps to talk to someone who know the legalities of a workplace & will hopefully have some practical advice. Are you part of a Union?

Thanks guys. I am trying to be assertive about what is ok and make inroads and I feel a bit better.
 
Thanks everyone, I can't speak about it I get too upset, trying to pretend it's different to get to sleep.
And once I get through tomorrow I might be able to breath, calm down, explain myself - though I may just have to go away for a bit.
I am not ill, it's not me.
 
Going through some major issuses here atm ...... Got cut off from reality via power for like over 48hrs ...... Thank God, I can Read a Book (Cloud Street) and had candles and a Kero Latern ..... Was feeling very isolated .... Made RL feel Real ........
 
Going through some major issuses here atm ...... Got cut off from reality via power for like over 48hrs ...... Thank God, I can Read a Book (Cloud Street) and had candles and a Kero Latern ..... Was feeling very isolated .... Made RL feel Real ........

Is it back on now? Did you ever decide where you were going to move to?
 
No. I have a co-worker who is senior to me who agreed to present at a conference workshop. Less than a fortnight before the conference, they call in 'sick' for 2 weeks and 'can't do the conference'. I'm the only other one going to the conference so I have to do it. They have done nothing on the workshop. Nothing at all. I would be fired if i did this. Then they send a series of emails and have micro managed 7 hours of a school student's work experience into 15 minute intervals including suggested lunch time topics and allocation of a staff member to introduce and stimulate conversation. Even if this poor innocent 15 year old wanted to do my profession, which honestly they've usually just picked anything for work experience and spend most of their day texting, they are going to be so scared from the micro managing they will change their mind. They even micro managed a morning tea which ended up wasting the department $50. I want to tell them that their behaviour is not ok, but they have a bad temper. I need to be seen to try to deal with their behaviour before I escalate it further, but I'm not sure how
That's not at all fair. Poor form. Definitely escalate it. I presume there's someone higher than this person to whom you can speak?
 
Is it back on now? Did you ever decide where you were going to move to?

Yes it was restored on Friday afternoon Thank goodness for that - I was hating the thought of a cold shower before I went to work! I could do the 48hrs with out a real shower, but it would have been bad to turn up to work smelling like the Seafood you sell LOL

NO - I have not made a decision - I really need to and asap! Sydney is looking good - just hope I can slot back in after living in the West for 23 years - I am a bit scared and anxious and making decisions is crippling :(
 
Yes it was restored on Friday afternoon Thank goodness for that - I was hating the thought of a cold shower before I went to work! I could do the 48hrs with out a real shower, but it would have been bad to turn up to work smelling like the Seafood you sell LOL

NO - I have not made a decision - I really need to and asap! Sydney is looking good - just hope I can slot back in after living in the West for 23 years - I am a bit scared and anxious and making decisions is crippling :(

It will work out wherever you end up. What is the worst that can happen? Good luck xo
 
Thank you everyone for your kind thoughts, wishes, I am doing a bit better by being in denial!

I find it hard to say.
I lost my younger brother & soul mate suddenly, and just wanted to curl up in a ball and hide.
Mostly my family sucks, except for the next generation, those kids held me up to do the eulogy & give me hope - for a lot of my family are horrid, no idea why the creepy people came.
 
I'm OK, actually I've never been better, but my sister is not doing so well. After my mum went missing my sister started thinking more deeply about her life and came to the conclusion that she should break up with her partner (together 8 years 2 kids together). He has not worked since they had been together and was abusing the worst drug out there (off it though for the past 2 years). So he moved out and away, but at the same time begging for her to have him back. Sisters basically wanted to be on her own for a bit and was hoping that partner was going to sort his life out... Get a job etc etc... And then eventually get back together... Fast forward 7 or so weeks and partner has meet a new girl, and has changed his mind and has said the he and my sister will never get back together .... Sister is devastated, this weekend is the one year anniversary of her car accident where she almosylt died ( said to me on the phone balling her eyes out the other day that she wished she had never woken up from her accident)... I think it has finally hit her that she is now a single mother living far away from the rest of her family with 2 children and a job and house to manage...
I am going down to her place this friday, just to be with her and try to support her... I can't go during the week (TAFE) and unfortunately I had to cancel my Friday and Saturday shift's to be able to go (very understanding boss). How do I help her in those 2 days? Like I've already told her to quit smoking the pot and cigarettes, told her she needs to eat more healthy foods... I do feel that if she did those things she would save so much money, be healthier and a lot more happy... But she won't listen to me in regards to those things.... What else can I do to help her? Also right now is a pivotal moment in my life... I really had the best day today... Meet up with a few girls from TAFE for study... Am loving studying at TAFE, work is great ( best boss I've ever had) and am just basically making the most of every minute... This sounds harsh, but I do not have the time or energy to be constantly traveling down the coast to make sure my sister is OK and thinking about her situation is really stressing me out... I sound so selfish, but it is true... Also it's very hard to listen to her talk about her problems, when all I want to do is talk about how happy I am compared to this time last year...
People I really need some advice from the wise posters on here....
 
Thank you everyone for your kind thoughts, wishes, I am doing a bit better by being in denial!

I find it hard to say.
I lost my younger brother & soul mate suddenly, and just wanted to curl up in a ball and hide.
Mostly my family sucks, except for the next generation, those kids held me up to do the eulogy & give me hope - for a lot of my family are horrid, no idea why the creepy people came.
So sorry to read of your loss. Always remember your brother with love, laughter and smiles and know that he will always be with you in your heart.
 
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