I think you're the one who needs to relax. All I said is that I'm down about this season, nothing about it being the worst ever or anything of that sort. It's perfectly okay to be critical about something, especially when this has been one of the most boring first week of feeds in recent history.
As for the ~conspiracy theories~... the 18 feeds were filled with references to Derrick and his father. It wasn't any tightly-kept secret or anything, they got name-dropped all over the place with Derrick giving Paulie advice, Derrick giving Nicole advice, Derrick's father being James's agent, Derrick warning Paulie to target Vanessa right away if she returned, etc. And with the nature of an All-Stars season, a bunch of alumni are being brought up on a regular basis again and Derrick is up there as one of the most commonly referenced so it's absolutely fair game to talk about him. Obviously there's the rumor about Nicole ratting out Dan and Derrick and getting them kicked off the cast (a rumor which is officially canon as it's been referenced by multiple people on the feeds), but there's also Cody being knowledgeable of Memphis but conveniently not knowing who Keesha is and Cody openly lamenting to the cameras about how he's lost without Derrick in the house. His influence ran rampant in 18 and that season ended up being mediocre at best, and yes we're only one week into this season but it's already starting off with a very similar feel.