You mentioned you wish people who had a choice in their own control could get perspective. Yet you chose to not visit your family due to wanting all of them (including yourself) vaccinated. Additionally you chose not to use the travel bubble arrangement that was offered. You also mentioned that you could do very little to change what has happened except that is not entirely accurate as you exercised your choice. Hence, your post is quite hypocritical.
The only main difference here is that the governments did not prevent you from travelling to New Zealand and did not prevent you from not using the travel bubble arrangement. Perhaps they delayed you from getting the vaccine in time but that is me speculating. However, people like me who do not want a forced medical procedure are excluded from society and work due to the government power and law. The two system society is segregation full stop.