The Lounge - Part 2
David - "Lise?"
Lisa - "Yeah..."
David - "Can I have a minute of your time... I won't ask for anything more than a minute."
Lisa - "I'm still like a little bit emotional, I don't know if I want to like..."
David - "I totally understand I don't wanna talk about it... I just wanna... just have quick word with you sort of thing."
Lisa - "Eugh I knew that was going to happen."
David - "I'd appreciate it that's all... I um... obviously I heard a lot through the grapevine and things like that and I don't know what... I haven't heard the truth and everything... it's all bits and pieces from people so I understand I've upset you, ok, so firstly I just want to apologise. It was never my intention to make someone upset. I don't want to talk about it now... I want... to give you the time to prepare yourself or whatever. I'd love you to come talk to me... um... you don't have to, you can take another way and totally forget about it that's your decision and I'll respect that. But, I would love to.. you know.. at some point hopefully sit down as two mature adults have a honest conversation, hash it out, have a chat, hopefully clear the slate sort of thing. But as I said it is entirely up to you... I don't expect you to talk about it now as you said you're emotional or whatever.. go away... just know that I am happy to talk to you at any time regardless of what I'm doing."
Lisa - "But you're saying sorry, but what are you sorry... what are you... sorry for if you don't know what you did. You know what you did..."
David - "I'm sorry because..."
Lisa - "...are you sorry you got busted or are you sorry that..."
David - "No no I'm sorry that you are upset."
Lisa - "I'm... It's not about the comment right, it's about the context as well. So there are two parts to this the; first part is what you said to me in the pool was that you said 'I'm not saying this just cos you're here but I like your upper body right'."
*flashback pool scene*
Lisa - "Then when you got in that room with all the boys you were like 'oh I just said it to her cos she was there, but like you know she thinks her tits are great but they're not'."
*flashback bedroom scene*
Lisa - "Which is completely inappropriate, right. To talk to me like... about me like that in the first place, and you were mean like that's not a nice thing to say about anyone, right. Let alone to say one thing to my face and then go in with the boys and put me on show and, you know what. I'm not used to being treated like that I don't have men like you in my life, right. Men that are in my life are protective and caring and are like my brothers, like I am one of the boys, you know so this is a different situation for me. To be put into a house with people and then to be, you know, sexually vilified because of my breasts or because of, you know. I'm so much more than that.. and I just thought that it was mean. Listen, if I could take back standing at the door and listening I would, I would 100%, because you know what sometimes you don't want to hear what people actually think of you, you know. So your behaviour to me was um... not only inappropriate but shows the type of person that you are and you are not somebody that I would ever associate with. And if we were on the outside of the world and this had happened I wouldn't even.. I would just like 'yeah cool'... but cos we're in here obviously it intensifies things. And yeah I was super... I was super upset about.."
David - "I totally understand."
Lisa - "...and you know, you said it in a room full of people that um some of them you know I do care about. And um I just don't think it's nice, you know you don't have to um... it's not... it's not necessarily about the comment it's about the fact that it's two faced, that you used me as a stepping stone to try and look cool in front of your mates."
David - "Ok can I have a moment to um... what I said to you in the pool.. I think think you've heard some things that we've said that I honestly I do believe you've heard it .. maybe the wrong way. Because what I said to the boys was it was your upper body I preferred and again I don't like talking about this cos it's... it is you know inappropriate but it was 'I prefer Cat's breasts' that's what I said. The reason I didn't say that out there is because you were both there and I thought that would be inappropriate."
Lisa - "I know, totally but then you don't go back into a room of boys and repeat it and say well I told her that I would pick her but the truth is..."
David - "No no no I did pick you I still picked you in there."
Lisa - "I don't even care who you picked I don't want you talking about me like that. I don't want you using me as a means for you to have boy chat and get into the cool group because I find it completely inappropriate."
David - "Ok I'm just going to say to you that boys will be boys when they're around.."
Lisa - "So someone said that about you sister how would you feel?"
David - "I know, I wouldn't be happy but I don't I..."
Lisa - "So ok that's where I'm at."
David - "I get ya and I understand why you're upset and I understand this is. you know, not going to resolve or anything like that if that's how but..."
Lisa - "Yeah but you don't have to like me... you know it doesn't bother me.. but you do have to be respectful of me."
David - "Totally, totally. It's just.."
Lisa - "That's how this works you know."
David - "Yeah well I agree... look I have probably done the wrong thing but I'm gonna say, and I'm not trying to pass the buck, I'm not alone ok... that's a lot of... I'm not alone in... you know, it wasn't just me. I've spoken to many of the boys and they don't think anything I said in there was you know anything..."
Lisa - "That's fine this wasn't about them it was about me and I don't mind how they see it..."
David - "The next thing then..."
Lisa - "...because of the boy code and all the rest of the bullshit that you guys go on with but the truth of the matter is as a female and as a um strong female I take offence to it."
David - "All I will say and I'll drop the subject is I apologise sincerely ok. I will take everything you said on-board. I don't expect you to trust me or anything like that's fine, I don't expect you to go and my best friend in here ok. I understand, I'm a realist. But I want you... I never like to see a lady cry ok so that I apologise for, I don't like seeing you upset."
Lisa - "Cool."