@Mooseface I did some google research about your query in regards to the secret of marriage as i was curious too. Here are the various links for you to peruse madam master.
I just read that article - and it is a load of shit
Possibly closer to true for the elderly dying.
Not true in any way shape or form when someone young is dying, it is hurtful, it is wrong, and nothing can make their leaving too early OK....someone young dying, is just cruel and horrible, and the person does try to make it easier for us, there is a kind of acceptance, but there is always an agonising, why, why, why....I want to fly, I want to do so much....still
I'm glad I haven't died young. I guess trying to think positive thoughts when you are dying is better than thinking negative thoughts. Though if I was in that position I would rather not think about it at all.