...when my Fiance dumped me after playing up behind my back with my best friend that I treated as a Brother all of those many years ago I was in a bad place for a while and was never looking for 'Love' anymore because I was totally heart-broken... they had been doing it for quite a few months behind my back and I was totally gutted... I was not seeking 'Love' in any way whatsoever... but then 'Love' found me with my now sweet darling wife that I've been with for 42 years now Affable my friend... never say never... I'm now glad that it happened to me because I now have my true soul mate... sadly Ali is 'chasing' 'Love'... she sounds so desperate to be honest... she doesn't need a TV 'Reality' show to find true love... it will occur naturally... silly girl... she's probably 100% genuine in wanting to get married but looking so desperate on a National TV show is not helping her cause methinks!...
...as I said above FatPants... back then when it happened to me all of those many years ago it made me think that I would never find true love again which was a natural fear at the time as you are saying but my sweet darling wife was my saviour and 'rescued' my feelings again thank god... so I guess that having them two run off into the sunset together and having kids together was a case of me dodging a bullet big time eh?... lol!... man I was lucky!... so as they say... 'Love finds a way in the end' so there's hope for all of us I guess Affable?... lol!... cheers.