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Heidi Anderson: Hitting 30 doesnāt mean I want a baby
- Heidi Anderson
- PerthNow
- August 20, 2014 12:00AM
Heidi Anderson, presenter on 92.9 FMās Breakfast with Heidi, Will & Woody.
I TURNED 30 back in May and for the last three months all people keep asking me is when Iām getting married and when will I have kids.
Why does society think that just because I have hit my thirties, that I want a big white wedding and to settle down with my boyfriend and have babies?
Now, Iām not saying that I never want this ā quite the opposite in fact.
Ever since I met my boyfriend, Griffo, I realised I want all this, but do I have to start now Iām 30?
Just to paint the picture for you, our relationship blossomed really quickly.
Weād only been dating for a few months before we moved in together and within 12 months of being together, Griffo bought his first house ā which he refers to as our first home.
So I can see why people are constantly asking us when will we get married and have babies.
To be honest with you, when I was 17 I truly thought by the time I was 30 Iād be married, own my first home (with a white picket fence) and have at least two children.
Now Iām sitting here, three months on from my 30th birthday and I donāt think Iām ready for babies! Not just yet anyway.
I can hear the sigh of relief from my man in Lake Argyll. He was worried Iād hit my thirties and the biological clock would be ready to explode.
Iāve mentioned nothing here about marriage, so take that as a big hint ⦠Iām ready for the white wedding all right!
Since moving into our newly purchased home, Iāve been thinking about getting a dog.
A friend of mine once told me that if youāre thinking of āgrowing up and getting a dogā there is a process you must follow.
He said āBefore you go out and buy a dog, purchase a plant. If you donāt kill it, then youāre ready for the dog.ā
He reckons its great training for babies; I never told him Iāve already murdered my first plant because I forgot to water it.
I guess what Iām trying to say here is, Iām conflicted.
One part of me is desperate to put on the training wheels and become a furry friendās mother. But then the other half of me, I donāt think wants to give up my independence.
Once we get a dog, weāve set the steps in motion to having our own baby. Well, thatās what society breeds into us anyway.
Having a dog is a HUGE responsibility ā I understand that. You need to love and nurture this furry friend until the very end.
You must train, walk, feed and play with your new child. Oh, and how can I forget you must clean up after this fur ball too?
I went to a second birthday last week, with lots of kiddies and parents; I think before that, I thought having a dog would be easy. Iām not saying the kids were acting like animals ⦠okay, maybe I am!
Some of these kids were out of control; running, jumping, pushing, attacking each other and eating everything in sight. I was exhausted just watching the parents chase their kids around the backyard.
If this was a taste of parenthood, Iām not sure Iām ready for a dog; let alone a baby.
I take my hat off to parents ā in my eyes, youāre all superheroes!
Maybe one day I will be too.