Yeah that's true.
Tim also got upset and insecure.
I just seen your post about Chrissie and that's so true, she wasn't overtly loud but put her foot down when someone had pissed her off! On the flip side what do you think of Katie?
Her video hyped her deluxe and then she was completely after validation in the house....same with Heidi last year...there are actually people I know in real life like this and I have very little respect for them.
Being loud and obnoxious but when it comes to confrontation, they're completely submissive.
I always feel like the HMs are manipulated into talking themselves up in their videos to the point where it would be next to impossible to fulfill their promise - how often is the video version absolutely nothing like the in-house version of the HMs. You're right, some people really do go in there full of bravado and totally crumble within the first 24 hours. You can never underestimate the influence of peer pressure and how necessary it is for a lot of people to fall into line, because any kind of conflict or disapproval seems like a fate worse than death to them - like the Milgram experiment and the personality types that succumb to that. Those kinds of people can never be Alphas. And it's not just pressure from other HMs, but unquestioning obedience to Big Brother too. I can't remember any specifics, but I think in earlier series of the show, they used to test the HMs response to BB's authority as well as the social dynamics within the house, and they really don't do that now, making the show even less interesting. It was interesting to see how the 20k dilemma played out and how it was quite clear Priya was a potential Alpha and Katie was
so close to giving up the money for fear of how the other HMs would react (more so than her public perception, I think).
I agree with you about people like Heidi. Being loud and brash is not the same as being a dominant personality type (in fact it can be quite the opposite - people with no self-belief are all front, no substance when it comes to social pressure). Even Alpha Males are usually calm, low key types and not outwardly aggressive. Maybe if you're living in a jungle and you need to choose a leader who's amazing at hunting and fighting off marauders you need an Alpha who's physically strong and aggressive, but not so much in the BB house. I think brains factor higher than brawn ultimately - which Matt failed to recognise. He was only the AM because there was nobody else who was a contender. I do hope this is an Alpha Female season - but it's interesting to note that Alphas don't usually win.
Despite finding him annoying and obnoxious, I do think Tim played a great game last year. If you look at it as a battle, the frontline is trying to avoid nomination by the other HMs, and the at the rear, it's about trying to win audience approval. A lot of people's downfall is getting so caught up with trying to be popular in the house that they forget about public perception, which is dumb for a number of reasons, especially because everyone's gonna end up nominated sooner or later. But a lot of people just cave in if their immediate environment isn't harmonious and they don't have their peers' full approval. Tim ignored the frontline and focused on the rear, which takes a lot of discipline and self-belief. He did start to slip near the end and get too embroiled in seeking approval from the other HMs, but ultimately that wasn't enough to ruin him. I think Priya is attempting the same strategy and I hope she gets the opportunity to give it a fair shot, but misogyny is alive and well and she might end up evicted before she has a chance.
Sorry, long post, but I find this so interesting!