‘Why I don’t want my daughter to watch The Bachelor’
September 19, 2015 6:50pm
It was all smiles until the final rose. Sam with his final two, Snezana and Lana. Picture: Channel 10
Lisa Muxworthy
news.com.au
OPINION
ANY woman who has been dumped knows how bloody awful it is. It’s devastating and takes forever to get over, and that’s not when you share it with 1.5 million Australians.
That’s how many people tuned in to see Lana unceremoniously dumped by the Bachelor Sam Wood on Thursday night.
It was pretty brutal. She was introduced to the family, shed a tear with Sam’s sister and thought she had met the love of her life. He was telling her how great she was, telling her she was the perfect girl but just not the perfect girl for him. Bam. There it is, over in one fell swoop.
Of course, this is what she signed up for in her pursuit for love. We all know how
The Bachelor ends. But seeing her fighting back tears in interviews yesterday makes me question why we support this public humiliation and devastating heartache — and let’s not forget the fact we are actively saying it’s OK for men to date and pash multiple women at the same time.
I’ve watched every episode of
The Bachelor and even got together with a girlfriend on Thursday night to watch the finale while drinking wine and eating cheese.
I mean, we made a night of it. We were texting friends, putting our best guess forward as to who was going to get the final rose (and, like the rest of the country, we had our money on Lana).
I couldn’t get enough of last year’s
Bachelor and was totally enthralled by love-rat Blake, so, yes, I’m an absolute hypocrite because I think the message
The Bachelor sends is horrid.
It quickly went from this …
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… to this.
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I’ve recently become a mum. My little girl is only one, but I don’t know how many times I’ve said I would hate it if she watched this show. I would hate it even more if she went on it.
When Snezana finally told Sam that she had fallen in love with him, he replied, “It’s so nice to hear you say that”. Say what? I realise he is restricted in what he can say and isn’t allowed to tell her how he feels, but that’s the problem. What sort of message is this sending to young men everywhere?
After Sam’s pitiful response to Snez, I turned to my friend, who has two young sons, and said, “You don’t want your boys watching this”. It is seriously destroying the dating game for our future generation.
Lana’s final date with Sam made it look like it was a match made in heaven.
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The major problem with this show is that is it highly entertaining. It’s addictive TV; that’s why we all can’t get enough of it. Another big problem is the gap between when the girls are dumped, to when it is screened to the masses.
Lana had to endure a painful four months of silence after she was dumped because she was not allowed to say boo about it until the finale aired.
That’s pretty tough going for anyone. All you want to do when you go through a breakup is eat a lot of chocolate and cry on a girlfriend’s shoulder. She didn’t even get to talk it through with Sam and get some answers — all she had were his final words uttered in front of a huge camera crew and under burning bright lights.
Sam said he had checked in with Channel Ten and the production company Shine after the finale and was assured Lana “was doing really well”. So he left it there.
Surely, it’s the responsibility of Ten to look after these girls? When Sam asked if she was OK, they should have said, “No, she’s feeling like shit, she’s heartbroken and embarrassed”. They should have facilitated some sort of conversation between the two, and offered Lana some counselling. Perhaps if she wasn’t so visibly traumatised four months on, I would feel more comfortable about the nation lapping up every moment of this reality TV show.
Oh how the tables have turned … Sam Frost is now the one handing out the roses.
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I mean, look at Sam Frost from last season. She was the jilted lover left heartbroken and embarrassed after Blake got cold feet and decided he should never have asked her to marry him. She was also devastated at the time, and yet in just a few days she will be back on our TV screens as our first Bachelorette searching for love.
I guess the only saving grace is that it levels the playing field when it comes to the dating game and shows all the girls out there that it’s not just the guys who get to pick and choose.