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delcan said:
First of all, I'm glad you vented because it clearly is causing you distress. Secondly, you 100% did the right thing approaching the Doctor with your concerns. Thirdly, go the Pediatrician and then change your GP.
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I will be changing GP's after this. Problem is that the pediatrician comes to the medical center he runs, plus there is a speech pathologists who goes there too. For now I will still see the pediatrician but I am going to go back to my first pediatrician that my older son used to see. It was only out of convenience I changed over really.

Thank you
 
Khun Khun said:
I have my moments where the slightest thing is said or I think too much and I'm borderline weepy. The hardest bit is to know it's real, see in his appearance that it's real (I only just noticed yesterday when I was going home that he a cancer face from the angle I was looking at him from and that sounds awful but it's what I saw), and the knowledge that the person I've known for longer than anyone else, apart from Mum, is not at all well and I am helpless in gving him complete healing. I was grateful that my roster for the week meant that I could play chauffeuse for them when they went to the specialist. Thankyou for asking. Until we know what the surgeon says next week we won't know re treatments, prognoses etc. Like with your lad, it's a waiting game.
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Oh khun khun. I'm really so very sorry. It does not sound awful to say that. I'm glad work schedule is good for you in being able to be there for your parents in their time of need and that you can be there as hard as it may be. I wish there was something I could do for you, that all of us could do for you. If you ever need to vent you can always do so on this thread but you can pm me whenever just because you want to talk :) I sincerely mean that
 
I just lost my grandmother,she passed on the 8th April and the funeral was this past monday.She had cancer and we thought
she would be with us longer but sadly it was not to be.My aunt and uncle are here from Ireland and he officiated the memorial service,
we hired a piper to play the laments as my gran was from a scottish heritage,I am sure she was smiling down upon us when she heard those pipes
 
Lindsay1973 said:
I just lost my grandmother,she passed on the 8th April and the funeral was this past monday.She had cancer and we thought
she would be with us longer but sadly it was not to be.My aunt and uncle are here from Ireland and he officiated the memorial service,
we hired a piper to play the laments as my gran was from a scottish heritage,I am sure she was smiling down upon us when she heard those pipes
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I'm so sorry Lindsay. Thoughts be with you and your family. I wish you guys all the strength there is. And the service sounds like it was a good way to remember your gran, very lovely :)

Post here whenever you want, whether you are sad or just want to post good memories of your grandmother. The people in here are wonderful people. Wishing you all the best x
 
Lindsay1973 said:
I just lost my grandmother,she passed on the 8th April and the funeral was this past monday.She had cancer and we thought
she would be with us longer but sadly it was not to be.My aunt and uncle are here from Ireland and he officiated the memorial service,
we hired a piper to play the laments as my gran was from a scottish heritage,I am sure she was smiling down upon us when she heard those pipes
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Sending you hugs Lindsay and I agree with Sweetgeek about the service being a good way to remember your Gran.

Take care
 
Lindsay1973 said:
I just lost my grandmother,she passed on the 8th April and the funeral was this past monday.She had cancer and we thought
she would be with us longer but sadly it was not to be.My aunt and uncle are here from Ireland and he officiated the memorial service,
we hired a piper to play the laments as my gran was from a scottish heritage,I am sure she was smiling down upon us when she heard those pipes
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Condolences to you Lindsay. I love bagpipes and I smiled when I read it. They sound fantastic at a funeral. They sound fantastic anywhere really. Hugs to you and I know you'll remember your grandmother with love, smiles and laughter.
 
Lindsay1973 said:
I just lost my grandmother,she passed on the 8th April and the funeral was this past monday.She had cancer and we thought
she would be with us longer but sadly it was not to be.My aunt and uncle are here from Ireland and he officiated the memorial service,
we hired a piper to play the laments as my gran was from a scottish heritage,I am sure she was smiling down upon us when she heard those pipes
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I'm very sorry about your loss. The memorial service sounds like it was lovely. I am sure she is smiling down upon you all. :)
 
thanks everyone,it was a nice memorial my uncle Peter is a pastor so he did the service.Here is the layout I made for her
it went in a frame at the front of the church and we had her Machlachlan plaque up there as well.It also went on the
service pamphlets
gran2.jpg
 
Sweetgeek said:
My son had another ear infection so took him to the doctor and whilst there I asked for a referral to see someone about his hearing and also a referral to a speech pathologist, because I am a little worried about his speech. He can say whole sentences and express himself well, but it is a little slurred and words are incomplete- example he will say cay instead of cake or lun instead of lunch. He will be three in 3 or so months. Then the GP flat out asked if I ever considered my son to have autism... I was stunned, because no I never did. He gets along with children well, even just before logging on here, he was pretending to make food with play dough and coming up to me and his older brother to see if we would pretend to eat his food. He loves being read to even joining in with his own analysis of what he sees from the pictures. He does have his quirks and some of those things are he needs to hold my hand before entering a room he is not always familiar with, he needs to put objects away before getting out another, he may throw a tantrum if he does not do things his way or if I try and do it when he can do it himself- but not all the time, he likes to make himself cross eyed by slowly moving his finger to his nose... But I never saw these things as anything more than quirks. When the GP started talking to me about autism and the new way of defining it, it just threw me off and looking at videos on youtube and reading about it, I am second guessing myself as a parent and everything else. I have booked in to see a pediatrician in a few weeks but until then I can't seem to settle myself. After a week I just cried myself stupid yesterday. I'm scared and anxious. I feel the dr's analysis of my son is wrong, I really do because I have seen him at preschool and I have seen him with his cousins and with people he is really good. But the online information is just getting to me and I can't stop this overwhelming buzz inside of me that is right now taking over.
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I have a hearing disability and I still cannot pronounce some words like cinnamon and brush..sometimes it just comes out wrong.Not being able to hear can make a child more reserved as they are missing out on a lot.When I was in primary school I had 7 ear operations and ear infection after ear infection.Go see a ENT and get his hearing tested,he might need grommets or maybe hearing aids,also a speech therapist can help with the speech.Go according to your gut instict,nobody knows your child better than you do
 
Khun Khun said:
I am not ok, neither is my family, especially not my Dad. We found he has a mass nestled in between his bowel and kidney last week. No idea how long it's been there or where it came from but my suspicions as it seems to be a sarcoma is that all of his skin cancers over the years are coming home to roost.
Yesterday we found out that it's large, it's incurable and needs to be shrunk with chemo, radio etc before they will remove it.
He said recently that he had 2 or 3 Boxing Day Tests left in him. Ironic words now that Richie has gone.
This going to be a fight for the little 81 year old. Any prayers etc would be very gratefully appreciated. Thankyou.
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So sorry to hear this,when we heard about gran we decided to make each day as happy as possible for her..that's all you can do and talking about it helps,talk to your family and let your dad know everyday how much you love him
 
Lindsay1973 said:
I just lost my grandmother,she passed on the 8th April and the funeral was this past monday.She had cancer and we thought
she would be with us longer but sadly it was not to be.My aunt and uncle are here from Ireland and he officiated the memorial service,
we hired a piper to play the laments as my gran was from a scottish heritage,I am sure she was smiling down upon us when she heard those pipes
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Sorry for your loss. It sounds like you and your family gave her a wonderful send off and she was much loved.
 
Sweetgeek said:
My son had another ear infection so took him to the doctor and whilst there I asked for a referral to see someone about his hearing and also a referral to a speech pathologist, because I am a little worried about his speech. He can say whole sentences and express himself well, but it is a little slurred and words are incomplete- example he will say cay instead of cake or lun instead of lunch. He will be three in 3 or so months. Then the GP flat out asked if I ever considered my son to have autism... I was stunned, because no I never did. He gets along with children well, even just before logging on here, he was pretending to make food with play dough and coming up to me and his older brother to see if we would pretend to eat his food. He loves being read to even joining in with his own analysis of what he sees from the pictures. He does have his quirks and some of those things are he needs to hold my hand before entering a room he is not always familiar with, he needs to put objects away before getting out another, he may throw a tantrum if he does not do things his way or if I try and do it when he can do it himself- but not all the time, he likes to make himself cross eyed by slowly moving his finger to his nose... But I never saw these things as anything more than quirks. When the GP started talking to me about autism and the new way of defining it, it just threw me off and looking at videos on youtube and reading about it, I am second guessing myself as a parent and everything else. I have booked in to see a pediatrician in a few weeks but until then I can't seem to settle myself. After a week I just cried myself stupid yesterday. I'm scared and anxious. I feel the dr's analysis of my son is wrong, I really do because I have seen him at preschool and I have seen him with his cousins and with people he is really good. But the online information is just getting to me and I can't stop this overwhelming buzz inside of me that is right now taking over.
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I thought all 3 year olds have quirks! Toddlers are the most eccentric beings I have ever encountered. My daughter at 3 wouldn't eat food that had 'bits' in it; she wouldn't go anywhere without her little brother and suffered terrible separation anxiety; my son had continuous ear infections; he wouldn't eat food that touched; if a pea rolled into his mashed potato that was the end of dinner. My neighbour's 3 year old wouldn't let anyone in the house unless they wiped their knees (clearly he'd misunderstood his mother's request that he wipe his feet). All of these children had happy childhoods, did well at school, finished university, have good, well-paid jobs and strong, happy relationships. I wouldn't worry about your beautiful boy just yet.
 
AntiGretel said:
SAD DAY TODAY

10th ANNIVERSARY SINCE THE LOSS OF "THE ONE" THAT I HOPED WOULD BE MINE FOREVER BY MY SIDE and ONE DAY, AS MY BRIDE.....

THE PAIN NEVER GOES.....SURE IT PEAKS AND SOME DAYS ARE MUCH BETTER THAN OTHERS...YET A THORN IN MY MOST SENSITIVE HEARTFELT CENTRE....ENDLESSLY

THE DAY WAS LONGER THAN ANY OTHER I HAVE EXPERIENCED///// EVER....ALBEIT IT NUMB AND DISTANT... THESE WORDS WERE WRITTEN WHEN I RETURNED FROM THE FINAL RESTING PLACE......



..and so you go leaving me here, in a room with a blank screen and empty slept in bed and white noise emanating from a lifeless tv.......... and so you left quickly as your arrival to me.....and we have said goodbyes before...and as i wiped your lips and face ,,,you opened the largest most beautiful eyes i have yet to see and said...'i might have known it would be you",,,,,you did see me...but not for long...and just like that old person with white thin legs in a nursing home on his 100th birthday you weeped out ' i don't want to die glen' but your blood came again and i held it in the palm of my hands as it left you one last time...this red, rich, darkening remnant ,,,,the end result of all those long days...and glorious nights,,and even though that old man is still alive at 101, we as a couple were not....we are not.

and you went as you arrived, you left me quickly, you left me many times before when i thought it would kill and i stood before the mirror with blade in two minds....but it did not..as you always , eventually, returned

now i have turned off the tv and somebody driving by toots a horn into nothingness...

the indictment is FINAL: I will not find you in the streets nor will the phone ever ring, and yet each moment will not let me be

it is not enough that there are many deaths and that this is not the first: it is not enough that i may live more days , perhaps , more years

it is not enough !!!!


the phone is like a dead piece of wood that will not speak.
it has spoken but always the wrong voice now

honey, i have waited before and you have always walked thru that door,,,,

now you must wait for me


14 april 2005
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I'm so sorry. It's an awful date and I will remember your loss, too, each year when it rolls around again.
 
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