Interesting you should say that. From Ben's facebook page (
https://www.facebook.com/bennorrisaus):
MY BAD RELATIONSHIP.
I think everyone has a relationship or history with a person, where the facts are blurred and you don't know why things have blown so far out of control. I have seen it with people's friends, work colleagues and siblings, it's a very common story.
My bad blood has been with Tim Dormer - former Big Brother winner! I am not exactly sure how things got started. Probably spawned from jealousy, fear and a general competitive nature. It must have started when Tim was on the show. I was a massive fan and to be honest - he was actually housemate I voted for. He was the predecessor to my win of Big Brother and I was in awe of how incredible he was as a housemate.
Once the show finished I noticed a general competitive streak with Tim - it felt like he spoke down to me, lets be honest who really knows if he did or if I was paranoid. Emotions can be very blurred. Plus what Tim and I shared was not an ordinary kinship. It is an otherworldly connection. I had received numerous whispers that Tim had quickly revealed he didn't like me and that he felt if he aligned a friendship with me it would dilute the power he felt he needed to take on this media career he planned to have.
I had learnt A LOT over the twelve months of the show being over and I was keen to pass on all the help I could offer Tim. But I was never responded to with my several attempts to connect with Tim. Things got worse and I felt I was a victim of targeted bulling - texting people I was with (former housemates) at functions to state I was not worth hanging out with - one text sent to Drew while we were at lunch with Tully - said 'OMG lunch from hell.' I am not the confident person I always come across as. I actually felt more and more that I was becoming this loser who he was making me out to be.
The Logies had me tweeting some really nasty things at Tim and it was a low point. I felt that it was justified at the time but in actual fact it was the worst way to deal with my own private self loathing. It was embarrasing! I was way out of line and I was in the wrong.
Then came the continued claims that I bullied Estelle in my year of Big Brother. Tim was never there and didn't really know the whole story - who was he to tell me I had bullied Estelle? I had fast realised that the 'so called' cool group on Big Brother had been shifted from being a group and now Tim and Estelle had started to promote me as the ring leader and the soul responsibility for Estelle's bad experiences she had on Big Brother.
More pain was yet to come. He actively started telling people that he had inside information and that I was a false winner of Big Brother and the show was rigged. The rumours around me not deserving the Big Brother win was painful and untrue. But with such a huge fan base following Tim I began to be bombarded on social media - people tearing down my Big Brother experience on a daily bases!
This week - I noticed Tim and I were going to be at the same functions and I become infatuated with what I would say and how I would act. Could I be cool? Would I be confrontational? It was a sea of paranoia and a level of anxiety that I don't think I totally understood.
When it came time to meet Tim I approached him calmly and warmly and desired a friendly chat which hopefully would allow us to clear the air. The first attempt didn't work and he completely blanked me. The following night, opportunity presented itself again. I tried the same approach. We managed to discuss our feelings openly and honestly and didn't throw blame or negativity. We just were two people who never really understood why we didn't get along.
I am not sharing this story because I want to continue to publicly re hash my saga, pushing my fifteen minutes or wanting to defame anyone. I want people to learn from my story. Just when you think your relationship with competitor, the friend or the enemy can't get any worse, sometimes you just need to apologise! You say sorry things have been they way they have been and you own up to your mistakes. You don't have to be best friends but you certainly don't need to continue caring around negativity and unnecessary anxiety.
Was Tim wrong? Was I wrong? Was the Blame 50/50, 80/20 or or 100% one sided? Who cares - Tim Dormer was a brilliant contestant who won Big Brother and today I have felt a burden which has now gone. Have you ever wanted to know what it would feel like to drop a couple of kg's and to feel the weight you want to feel. Well let that burden go! When I see Tim Dormer I will high five him and have a laugh because I put everything on the line to sort it out like adults.
It is easy to hold grudges, it's easy to hold onto blame and to get caught up in ill feelings. However it is much more satisfying to let things go, move on and be happy in life. If you hold a grudge with a family member, work colleague, friend or loved one - stand outside the box and think to yourself, "Is it really worth the pain that comes with holding onto these emotions?"
Benjamin x
Look who I happened to bump into last night. A BB reunion 
Tully SmythVerified account @tee_smyth 
Sandra Nixon @SandyJaneNixon 6h
Gemma @gemma6foot6 5h
Lisa Clark @IAMLISACLARK 5m
Jason Roses @RosesJason 3h
tim dormer @timdormer 
