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delcan said:
I am so proud of Tully for posting this. I hope it ignites her flame within.

Charlotte’s Law

Imagine, for a second, feeling like you’re worthless. That you’re a terrible human being. That you’ve made awful mistakes that you will never be able to take back, never be able to apologise enough for….never be forgiven for. Imagine feeling hopeless. Like it’s never going to get easier, brighter or better. Like you will constantly be swimming upstream, isolated even if you are in a room full of people. That no one will ever fully understand. Imaging finding yourself crying in your kitchen for 20 minutes, only noticing how long you’d been standing in there when you slip on the puddle of your own tears. Imagine not being able to be alone, for fear of being left with your own poisonous thoughts. Not being able to sleep. Turning to drinking and partying as a way to delay the inevitable darkness of reality and your own stupid brain that just, won’t, stop.

Now imagine you have hundreds of thousands of people online- people on Twitter, on Facebook…on Instagram and on blogs, websites, forums…telling you that you’re right.

That you ARE a piece of shit, ugly, fat, a nobody. That you deserve everything you’re getting. That you will never amount to anything. That you should just go die because you’re a waste of space anyway.

Let me tell you- because Charlotte is no longer able to - it’s absolutely fucking heartbreaking.

It’s damaging and terrifying and breaks down your self-confidence and resilience one piece at a time.


(If you, or anyone you know needs someone to talk to- call Lifeline on 13 11 14.)
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oh TULLY :(
 
the mother in me just wants to wrap her up in a big hug ... and try to chase away some of the demons
 
crimmy said:
the mother in me just wants to wrap her up in a big hug ... and try to chase away some of the demons
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And the editor in me wants to take it down and stop it being quite so personal. I certainly admire the sentiment and the fact that she dared to post it, but the trolls are going to have a field day...all sorts of them.
 
prufrock said:
And the editor in me wants to take it down and stop it being quite so personal. I certainly admire the sentiment and the fact that she dared to post it, but the trolls are going to have a field day...all sorts of them.
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without being so personal it would lose its poignancy don't you think?
 
prufrock said:
And the editor in me wants to take it down and stop it being quite so personal. I certainly admire the sentiment and the fact that she dared to post it, but the trolls are going to have a field day...all sorts of them.
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To hell with the trolls - they will be there no matter what she posts. I like that she made it personal. I think it is good therapy and I like that she was able to bare part of her soul for her supporters to see.
 
prufrock said:
And the editor in me wants to take it down and stop it being quite so personal. I certainly admire the sentiment and the fact that she dared to post it, but the trolls are going to have a field day...all sorts of them.
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that brought tears to my eyes. tonight she would of been at the NRL, and she would be thinking of that. life is so weird

maybe keep it there, but delete it on Twitter? don't think she would get many trolls on there
 
Wow - that was actually brave to write that.
I'd like to tell her that she needs to forgive herself.
That everyone makes mistakes.
Everyone deserves forgiveness-especially from ourselves.
Seems no matter what cruel things are said to her by random nobodies who judge so harshly, she judges herself more.
She has a lot going for her, and the mother in ME wants to sit down and point them all out to her and make her realise that she deserves to be happy.
 
crimmy said:
without being so personal it would lose its poignancy don't you think?
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No, I don't. I actually don't want to stick a target on my forehead here either, but a plea like '...do this for me', will be misconstrued and slipping in your own tears may be the truth, but it will be seen as hyperbolic and taking the focus from Dawson. Please don't get me wrong, I'm glad Tully is speaking out, but there's a reason that public figures have managers/editors. I frankly think someone who loves Tully and not quite so personally involved could have helped give it more poignancy because often less is more. I don't mean to be disrespectful of Tully or her feelings .
 
Every time I read something this week like Tully has written, my brain immediately references Helen Razer's piece... especially if the author makes the article about them. It's strange because I normally have very little time for Helen but she has made me question the intentions behind these pieces about Charlotte, moreso when the author barely knew her or didn't even at all. I do agree with you though pru... she's setting herself up here.
 
camerashy1 said:
that brought tears to my eyes. tonight she would of been at the NRL, and she would be thinking of that. life is so weird

maybe keep it there, but delete it on Twitter? don't think she would get many trolls on there
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Oh god. I didn't realise it was on twitter. I think that's incredibly high risk for Tully.
 
prufrock said:
And the editor in me wants to take it down and stop it being quite so personal. I certainly admire the sentiment and the fact that she dared to post it, but the trolls are going to have a field day...all sorts of them.
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she completely opened up, no hiding. isn't that what people need to do, so others don't feel alone?
 
Mrs Butterface said:
Every time I read something this week like Tully has written, my brain immediately references Helen Razer's piece... especially if the author makes the article about them. It's strange because I normally have very little time for Helen but she has made me question the intentions behind these pieces about Charlotte, moreso when the author barely knew her or didn't even at all. I do agree with you though pru... she's setting herself up here.
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I knew you would. I thought of Razer too dammit. I think this is fraught.
 
There is quite a lot to be said of what has been written and of "Charlotte's Law" itself but I'm guessing the comments would be unwelcome - so have another fan photo instead!

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...on websites, forums...

We can probably confirm now that Tully does pop in to see what's being said...unless there is another forum still actively discussing HM's? I would really love to know why on earth someone who is already feeling THIS fragile, would actively seek out further possible negativity? Seriously, I don't understand this aspect at all.

I don't think that trolling anyone's SM account is acceptable, nor do I think it should be tolerated... However, Tully has demonstrated in this article, that she fully understands the terrible impact all of this shit is having on her personally. So, why keep it? What are all these followers worth to her? She's a good kid... Living out her daily life for 200k people to judge as they please...That's the absolute reality of SM... It doesn't matter if it's wrong or right, it just IS.

I really liked one of CD's insights into the trolls... She said something like, They are deeply troubled and have their own demons and their words are just a reflection of their own unhappiness.
 
Insomniac said:
Wow - that was actually brave to write that.
I'd like to tell her that she needs to forgive herself.
That everyone makes mistakes.
Everyone deserves forgiveness-especially from ourselves.
Seems no matter what cruel things are said to her by random nobodies who judge so harshly, she judges herself more.
She has a lot going for her, and the mother in ME wants to sit down and point them all out to her and make her realise that she deserves to be happy.
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You expressed it perfectly.
On a positive note, I have really liked how she has been this last week. She seems to have found an inner peace and happiness. It brings out the beauty in her. I commented over the weekend that she looked radiant - I think it was that inner beauty shining through.
 
camerashy1 said:
she completely opened up, no hiding. isn't that what people need to do, so others don't feel alone?
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People will read it differently, but I'm not sure this will necessarily help much. Sorry. I'd like it to help Tully, but by the time she's dealt with the trolls, how many more tears will be shed?
 
Jt193 said:
You expressed it perfectly.
On a positive note, I have really liked how she has been this last week. She seems to have found an inner peace and happiness. It brings out the beauty in her. I commented over the weekend that she looked radiant - I think it was that inner beauty shining through.
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if you can please, pinpoint the inner peace. why?
 
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