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hmm so i usually don't go into the "tully was here, drew was there, sydney, melbourne" information but i just read all the posts in here this morning on the dog saga and this is what i am understanding.

tully had last minute trip to melbourne. She did not leave early at all. she was already back in melbourne with the dog when said dog got sick. Tully's ex is the one to cut her holiday short because the dog was sick.

So i'm assuming if you go to melbourne last minute you go there for a reason and you would stay for a bit longer (or as long as you could), especially if your boyfriend lives there since it's a long way to go. I would say cutting it short for your sick dog would be more of an excuse to rush home than just sticking to a stupid custody arrangement with your ex over a dog that you get to see all the time. She went months without the damn dog when she was in big brother and everyone survived. So sorry but the fact that she had such a short trip to melbourne and returned for a stupid dog custody arrangement is worse than if she rushed home for a sick dog. She may have returned for other reasons that have nothing to do with the dog, but we wouldn't know that and i am just going on the speculation here over the past couple of pages, but whoever is re-assessing their drully thoughts based on whether it was tully or her ex rushing back for the stupid dog, i'd say rushing back for an access visit (when you get access every week) is more of a worry.
 
TullyLovesDrew said:
I agree that the shared dog custody is just a horrible idea.
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Agree...absolutely moronic.

What could possibly be so amazing about the stupid dog that can't be replaced with another Pomeranian....they eat, look cute, crap/pee, sleep, go for walks, run around, and can do tricks.... The new dog will do everything except maybe some tricks....Teach the new dog the tricks Luna has and you're set.....

Voila problem solved.
 
what you're not getting is that some people feel for their pets the same as people do for their children

soooo ... thinking from that perspective ... you have a baby, you end your relationship ... baby replacable by another? or share custody arrangement?

don't get me wrong - I think they should stop with the shared custody and have one person have permanent custody with the other to have unlimited visitation for as long as they care to ... HOWEVER like anything to do with children or pets - you don't know the situation until its YOUR situation

so it is what is is ... should've, could've, would've ... didn't
 
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crimmy said:
what you're not getting is that some people feel for their pets the same as people do for their children

soooo ... thinking from that perspective ... you have a baby, you end your relationship ... baby replacable by another? or share custody arrangement?

don't get me wrong - I think they should stop with the shared custody and have one person have permanent custody with the other to have unlimited visitation for as long as they care to ... HOWEVER like anything to do with children or pets - you don't know the situation until its YOUR situation

so it is what is is ... should've, could've, would've ... didn't
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I fully understand the pets as kids thing, believe you me. But I think it's important to realise that they're not, and that their needs and their resiliency are very different. And even as with children, you have to be sure you're doing what's best for them, and not using them as pawns or an emotional crutch. Not saying that's the case here, but I guess I just hope that neither of them is going to let this arrangement hamstring their lives for the next decade or more. It wouldn't be good for anyone, including the dog.
 
I agree that the joint custody thing isn't ideal, but it's obvious that Tully adores that dog (and Tahlia the same given she raced back from Newy), so I'm not sure what people expected them to do given neither of them probably wanted to lose her.

I know that if my partner and I split and he ended up keeping the dog permanently I'd be crushed, and I don't think I have nearly as much attachment to him as Tully clearly does for Luna. People get very attached to their pets. You can't just "replace" them. It's the same reason why when some people lose a pet to death they take a long time to get a new one or sometimes never do. They can't deal with "replacing" them. I know that might sound silly, but as a dog person myself I know how much of a loyal companion they become and a huge part of you feels empty when you lose them.
 
littlebear said:
I fully understand the pets as kids thing, believe you me. But I think it's important to realise that they're not, and that their needs and their resiliency are very different. And even as with children, you have to be sure you're doing what's best for them, and not using them as pawns or an emotional crutch. Not saying that's the case here, but I guess I just hope that neither of them is going to let this arrangement hamstring their lives for the next decade or more. It wouldn't be good for anyone, including the dog.
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Sing it sister!
 
littlebear said:
I fully understand the pets as kids thing, believe you me. But I think it's important to realise that they're not, and that their needs and their resiliency are very different. And even as with children, you have to be sure you're doing what's best for them, and not using them as pawns or an emotional crutch. Not saying that's the case here, but I guess I just hope that neither of them is going to let this arrangement hamstring their lives for the next decade or more. It wouldn't be good for anyone, including the dog.
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agree. I haven't been able to replace my beloved dog and don't think i ever will. But surely they can be rational about it. When one goes away the other has it longer, or one keeps it and the other can see whenever. Tully went away for months without the dog and survived so why she wanted to share care when she got back (and after the circumstances of the break-up ie: it was her doing) is beyond me
 
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A couple I know are divorcing. Apparently they should have left each other a long time ago, but didn't because they have a dog they both adore and didn't want to cause stress to it by separating. You can't make this shit up.

I agree with littlebear's post. I do not get this dog custody stuff
 
So I am guessing none of you have every been attached to a dog/cat/any pet!! to believe that they are that easily replaced...
 
prufrock said:
They are not easily replaced, we acknowledge that. Do you however think the current situation is tenable?
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It would be hard, taking any loved one into a new relationship is hard, fitting with kids/ pets or previous commitments isnt easy!!
 
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