warning long going off topic rant here by my comments on this whole thing.
Sadly there is this phenom where the 'bad boy' sort of thing appears to be attractive. People want someone to take charge. Give them some orders. This is where selfish arseholes often come in. Or people buying into the bullshit someone sells of being cool and awesome, which can come from confidence.
In that pick up artist shit, there is stuff about you're more attractive if the girl feels she needs to win your approval. Confident, looking like you don't need them, everyone likes you blah blah apparent makes people more attractive.
People mistake the fact that because they are nice to someone, they will be nice to them. They are attracted and like the person happy and so then just do what ever that person wants. Where the happiness is based on the other person's happiness. The problem with that is, that other persons happiness isn't dependent on the happiness of the other so will often cheat and do all sorts of shit stuff. They are just about their happiness.
I would say in the house where people like Travis, he is seemingly a nice guy but about himself. Now some judging, but from hints of him always telling stories about there being chicks, his package about always bringing girls home and his mum doing everything for him and praising him. He's probably a guy that's view of woman is pleasing him. They're then happy because he is happy. He is happy because he gets what he wants.
People say people get over it, but they often don't. I look at mates of mine who were not great. I know people who were in toxic relationships for years. Bringing people back to their flat they shared with their girlfriend. While the girlfriend was there, she was crying in one room while he was banging the other in another. They're of course now happily married...
I know a guy who was a classic arrogant wanker, he never got laid in highschool, so in uni he turned into a major arsehole to girls. Good looking guy, smart, good job and all that. He'd literally be out in a club with his then adorable and lovely girlfriend, with out her knowing pick up a girl, leave, bang that girl and then come back. Now he's all Mr successful jet setting perfect guy. Where I am sure his wife thinks she got a good one. But he cheated on her a few months before the wedding. People don't change, if it's about them it always will be.
This will sound a lame thing to say, but I suffer from the nice guy thing. I'm easy going, I'm not a push over or anything at all. I am strong willed, but I'm just nice and easy going and like doing things to make the other person happy as much as my inherant selfishness allows lol. I can't remember who said it to me, but someone a few years back said there was no 'edge' to me or something. So maybe I am just a bit bitter, but I have always found it interesting. I always notice girls being treated badly by guys in ways I never would, and also strangely enough in ways where if I ever did that my exes would basically tell me to fuck off.
Which gets to the end, a lot of people end up with the wrong sort of people. I definitely think I end up with the wrong ladies for me. Which happens to a lot. It actually is quite hard to end up with the right people for you. I have dated some amazing girls who could have been, but things don't work out. Now it's like, I'm 30, where are all these girls that are meant to want nice guys now.. and they're still with arseholes.
It also is shocking, a long time good friend of mine had a 30th a month or so back and her boyfriend was there. This girl is so lovely, non judgmental, kind and sweet. Really top girl and quite pretty. Her boyfriend was some big overweight arsehole. I had met him before but I was just bemused by how that realtionship works.
Anyway I could continue going on but I wont.