Do you place value on virginity? Why would you like someone more if they were/weren't a virgin?
I know this question wasn't directed towards me but yes I personally place value on a lack of sexual history- especially in men.
Women get slut shamed and treated like
"used goods" if it is known that they have been with numerous partners. In mens eyes, they often will admire a woman with "
class" aka someone who hasn't been with x amount of men. Whereas men are celebrated and cheered on for sowing their oats. To me, this sexist double standard is primitive, outdated and offensive.
Most men I come across have been with between 10 - 15+ women by the age of 21 and it makes me feel sick. Most of these were from one night stands and they are the same men who ridicule women for doing the same.
I admire men who don't have one night stands and actually care about the person they are sleeping with. Men who take their time with the person they want to be with. If I were to date a man with an extensive sexual history, it would make me question his morals. I would be wondering what he would do if we were to break up. Would he rush off to bang some other girl asap while I sit back and deal with heartbreak? I don't take sex as a light matter. Therefore I want a man who feels the same...But I have yet to meet one who
chooses to be this way.
As a fairly attractive woman at 21, I lost my virginity at age 20. Men seem to congratulate me for this and continuously tell me that they admire this in a woman. Well no shit sherlock. While you're messing around getting your dick wet, you want the closest thing to a virgin mary when you settle down. All because your egos can't handle a woman who has been with someone better than yourself. The less men she has been with, the less inferior you feel.
This is why I admire men with a less colourful sexual history...But only when he chooses to be this way. Not because he didn't have the opportunity to do so.
Edit: I don't mention women who sleep around because they already get enough shame as it is. In fact, I don't think sleeping around is always a bad thing. It's just that it is so incredibly common and the the inequality between the sexes disturbs me. Women are whores and need to keep their number down, men need to sow their oats. It's not hard to find a woman who hasn't been around the block. However a man who is attractive and chooses not to sleep around is a freaking unicorn in our society.