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Trala said:
Imagine if they banned him from the search function?! He would implode!

My favourite searched and found post of so far was an absolute clanger from 2013. I must say, of the posts he has fossicked so far, even all this time later, I still stand behind every word.

I guess while he is unhealthily clinging to me he is leaving the kids on Mario Cart alone ;)
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You are pretty active on here yourself. Have you exhausted your uncreepy inbox of bronzed asses of emotionally vulnerable girls half your age?
 
Witty Banter said:
You are pretty active on here yourself. Have you exhausted your uncreepy inbox of bronzed asses of emotionally vulnerable girls half your age?
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I have no idea what that means?

Can you give me an example of what you are talking about by quoting a few searched posts?
 
Trala said:
I have no idea what that means?

Can you give me an example of what you are talking about by quoting a few searched posts?
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OK, if you want a quote, I concede early after searching and having your Golden Book drama that I've been trying to repress from my memory and Lynda la Plante garbage that I'm trying to unlearn come up. Anyhow, you were taunting reepbot by dangling Inigo's hotness that you had been exchanging on whatever social media you use to groom her and exchange lustworthy pictures with privacy settings to taunt reepbot with.
 
Witty Banter said:
OK, if you want a quote, I concede early after searching and having your Golden Book drama that I've been trying to repress from my memory and Lynda la Plante garbage that I'm trying to unlearn come up. Anyhow, you were taunting reepbot by dangling Inigo's hotness that you had been exchanging on whatever social media you use to groom her and exchange lustworthy pictures with privacy settings to taunt reepbot with.
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I have never done any such thing. That is just your warped mind playing tricks on you again when it comes to reading what you think motivates behaviour. You are the one who uses Reepbot's feelings for Inigo to manipulate him, not me.

But since you have once again brought up the topic of Inigo, I always felt your high school like teasing of Ross for being friends with Fiona was super odd - you know the incessant "bleachy loves inigo, bleachy loves inigo" thing you obsessed over for weeks on end. That coupled with your ongoing obsession with how Reepbot feels about "ykw" has always been super odd to me. But the penny just dropped. You have a crush on Fiona. You have a crush on Fiona and you can't stand the fact that she has found a friend in me, and that we have formed a friendship outside this forum.

Given you and I are very close in age, your infatuation with her troubles me greatly, and it has nothing to do with age. It troubles me that you have fallen for a woman you have labelled as "emotionally vulnerable". You would be disappointed though. After getting to know Ingio, I can tell you you are mistaken. She is anything but emotionally vulnerable.

FYI, once you become an adult you can actually become friends with other adults, without age or "grooming" concerns. It is not like high school, where the Year 8 kids can't play with the Year 12 kids or real life where 42 year old men shouldn't play games online with 10 year old strangers. It is okay to have diversity in adult age when it comes to forming and maintaining friendships. I have friends of all ages, from 20 right up to 89. It is sad that you can't see that.
 
Trala said:
I have never done any such thing. That is just your warped mind playing tricks on you again when it comes to reading what you think motivates behaviour. You are the one who uses Reepbot's feelings for Inigo to manipulate him, not me.

But since you have once again brought up the topic of Inigo, I always felt your high school like teasing of Ross for being friends with Fiona was super odd - you know the incessant "bleachy loves inigo, bleachy loves inigo" thing you obsessed over for weeks on end. That coupled with your ongoing obsession with how Reepbot feels about "ykw" has always been super odd to me. But the penny just dropped. You have a crush on Fiona. You have a crush on Fiona and you can't stand the fact that she has found a friend in me, and that we have formed a friendship outside this forum.

Given you and I are very close in age, your infatuation with her troubles me greatly, and it has nothing to do with age. It troubles me that you have fallen for a woman you have labelled as "emotionally vulnerable". You would be disappointed though. After getting to know Ingio, I can tell you you are mistaken. She is anything but emotionally vulnerable.

FYI, once you become an adult you can actually become friends with other adults, without age or "grooming" concerns. It is not like high school, where the Year 8 kids can't play with the Year 12 kids or real life where 42 year old men shouldn't play games online with 10 year old strangers. It is okay to have diversity in adult age when it comes to forming and maintaining friendships. I have friends of all ages, from 20 right up to 89. It is sad that you can't see that.
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Exactly how well do you know her?
 
Witty Banter said:
Exactly how well do you know her?
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You really have no concept how relationships and friendships work do you?

While I don't know her blood type, or her mothers maiden name, or what her favourite vegetable is, I know her well enough to class her as a friend.

Let's see how predictable you are? My guess, about now your search function will be going into overdrive, fossicking through our posts of yesteryear in your desperate quest to regurgitate the time Inigo and I shared a mutual dislike for each other...
 
ughhhhh! @Witty Banter ... your excitement over finding a perceived weakness is as pathetic as you are.

anyway.... @Trala, sorry to hear about that, it sucks to be in that sort of position. I know the advice is generally to have a third person present so that things can't be twisted. I was once in a position where I really needed to talk with someone to clear the air at work and it ended up being better for us just to have a chat one-on-one, if that didn't work, I guess I would have had to bring in another person, fortunately we were able to clear the air and move forward in a healthier work relationship. So yeah, it worked for me. You need to do what you think is best.
Sometimes confronting some behaviours is a challenge, but is enough to force change. When someone thinks they are going basically unchecked by anyone they have no reason to change, when faced with the reality of the situation they either need to escalate it themselves or actually change their behaviour.

Sometimes... with some people.

I'm not sure anything can be done about the 'other' situation here :)
 
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bleachy_dude said:
ughhhhh! @Witty Banter ... your excitement over finding a perceived weakness is as pathetic as you are.

anyway.... @Trala, sorry to hear about that, it sucks to be in that sort of position. I know the advice is generally to have a third person present so that things can't be twisted. I was once in a position where I really needed to talk with someone to clear the air at work and it ended up being better for us just to have a chat one-on-one, if that didn't work, I guess I would have had to bring in another person, fortunately we were able to clear the air and move forward in a healthier work relationship. So yeah, it worked for me. You need to do what you think is best.
Sometimes confronting some behaviours is a challenge, but is enough to force change. When someone thinks they are going basically unchecked by anyone they have no reason to change, when faced with the reality of the situation they either need to escalate it themselves or actually change their behaviour.

Sometimes... with some people.

I'm not sure anything can be done about the 'other' situation here :)
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I am thinking the same thing, one on one keep the dialog non twistable, rather than make it about the issues, focus on "I feel Iike we could work together better than we are right now, to be effective we need to team nurse, I am sorry if I have upset or annoyed you. Is there any way we can start a fresh?".

I know I can't change or control how people act. I only have control of the way I respond to it. Having this conversation is more about me being able to let go, accept her as she is and move forward. To do that I feel I need to clear the air.

As for the 'other' situation, Glen made a great point. From my position, I hate everything about the 'other' situation. That means I need to look at the role I play in the mindless banter. I remember getting a PM from a member I have never engaged with around his "you were an addict 20 years ago and used while you were pregnant" phase, and he was discussing his fixated behaviour, saying every time I respond to his digs I feed his own addiction and need for me, and that I have become his fix. He was right and I should have listened. I am going to try really hard from this moment on to stop feeding him. But it's really hard given that he can at times Tourettes my name like a parrot. At the height his manufactured Cliqueagate, I would wake up in the morning and put my name in the search bar to see how many times he mentioned my name while I was sleeping, I think his record was 18 times!
 
bleachy_dude said:
Do you have mummy issues?

My mum is pretty awesome.
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Oh this reminds me of a story.

My son once got teased by a group of boys who had witnessed him kiss me goodbye as I dropped him off at the school yard, and like you he was confused by the attack.

His response "I love my mum. Don't you love yours?"

When he told me that afternoon, my heart swelled.
 
Trala said:
Okay!

Let's get back to basics!!!

GOOD MOANIN OT THREAD!!
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Merry Moanin
 
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Merry Moanin
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Pisshornin!!!!

I am up early and at it. I wasn't able to get to my lash app on Tue, so my lash girl is opening the shop just for me at 07:30!

Thank god too, because I am out to dinner tomorrow, and my lashes look like a barren forest!

See you later, sexies!
 
Trala said:
I am thinking the same thing, one on one keep the dialog non twistable, rather than make it about the issues, focus on "I feel Iike we could work together better than we are right now, to be effective we need to team nurse, I am sorry if I have upset or annoyed you. Is there any way we can start a fresh?".

I know I can't change or control how people act. I only have control of the way I respond to it. Having this conversation is more about me being able to let go, accept her as she is and move forward. To do that I feel I need to clear the air.

As for the 'other' situation, Glen made a great point. From my position, I hate everything about the 'other' situation. That means I need to look at the role I play in the mindless banter. I remember getting a PM from a member I have never engaged with around his "you were an addict 20 years ago and used while you were pregnant" phase, and he was discussing his fixated behaviour, saying every time I respond to his digs I feed his own addiction and need for me, and that I have become his fix. He was right and I should have listened. I am going to try really hard from this moment on to stop feeding him. But it's really hard given that he can at times Tourettes my name like a parrot. At the height his manufactured Cliqueagate, I would wake up in the morning and put my name in the search bar to see how many times he mentioned my name while I was sleeping, I think his record was 18 times!
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Was it this time?
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