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MADONNA said:
errr dang. What, really?
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Lucas said:
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I just want to mention that being present when a person dies is a privilege and particularly for a loved one it made it easier.

Having worked in a hospital I was aware that a person in the throes of death, so to speak, will have a bowel movement. In the case of my mum, when we arrived in the morning to see her and we knew then that there would only be hours or days to go, the nurses were in her room and changing the sheets. We could all smell 'the smell'. Within five minutes of us arriving and on the stroke of 11 o'clock (AM) and one week to the day and hour of my mum entering hospital through Emergency, my mother passed away.

The nurses were lovely. The five of us present spent at least another 90 minutes crying, laughing and all that comes with losing someone that has been a part of your life forever. I am pleased that I was there for that moment.
 
Knock_Loudly said:
I just want to mention that being present when a person dies is a privilege and particularly for a loved one it made it easier.

Having worked in a hospital I was aware that a person in the throes of death, so to speak, will have a bowel movement. In the case of my mum, when we arrived in the morning to see her and we knew then that there would only be hours or days to go, the nurses were in her room and were changing the sheets. We could all smell 'the smell'. Within five minutes of us arriving and on the stroke of 11 o'clock (AM) and one week to the day and hour of my mum entering hospital through Emergency, my mother passed away.

The nurses were lovely. The five of us present spent at least another 90 minutes crying, laughing and all that comes with losing someone that has been a part of your life forever. I am pleased that I was there for that moment.
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Thanks for sharing~
Sorry for your loss xo
 
Knock_Loudly said:
I just want to mention that being present when a person dies is a privilege and particularly for a loved one it made it easier.

Having worked in a hospital I was aware that a person in the throes of death, so to speak, will have a bowel movement. In the case of my mum, when we arrived in the morning to see her and we knew then that there would only be hours or days to go, the nurses were in her room and changing the sheets. We could all smell 'the smell'. Within five minutes of us arriving and on the stroke of 11 o'clock (AM) and one week to the day and hour of my mum entering hospital through Emergency, my mother passed away.

The nurses were lovely. The five of us present spent at least another 90 minutes crying, laughing and all that comes with losing someone that has been a part of your life forever. I am pleased that I was there for that moment.
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:cry: Beautiful.
As @MADONNA said thanks for sharing and sorry for your loss. xxxx :) :thumbsup:
 
Knock_Loudly said:
I just want to mention that being present when a person dies is a privilege and particularly for a loved one it made it easier.

Having worked in a hospital I was aware that a person in the throes of death, so to speak, will have a bowel movement. In the case of my mum, when we arrived in the morning to see her and we knew then that there would only be hours or days to go, the nurses were in her room and changing the sheets. We could all smell 'the smell'. Within five minutes of us arriving and on the stroke of 11 o'clock (AM) and one week to the day and hour of my mum entering hospital through Emergency, my mother passed away.

The nurses were lovely. The five of us present spent at least another 90 minutes crying, laughing and all that comes with losing someone that has been a part of your life forever. I am pleased that I was there for that moment.
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Playing a small part in this privilege is what makes our jobs as nurses so special.

Thanks for sharing

Sincerely
Tracey :)
 
All these "thanks for sharing" is flashing me back to my NA meeting days!!!

Ha!

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
 
As a gay man and of my age, I have seen more death than I need to. A hell of a lot of people both friends and colleagues from the 80s and 90s and on are gone. Experiencing my mothers death helped me come to understand loss and grief. It happens every moment. Right now, someone has passed away. On the other hand, right now the joy of a newborn entering the world has also happened. Very yin and yang don't you think. :)
 
Trala said:
Playing a small part in this privilege is what makes our jobs as nurses so special.

Thanks for sharing

Sincerely
Tracey :)
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Thank you for being a nurse Tracey. I've worked with many over the years even wanted to be one myself but changed my mind after all those years in the hospital system. And thank you for using your first name. You are a good stick!

Sincerely, Denys :thumbsup:
 
jessy_girl said:
Ok I feel like I've just wandered into a personal conversation here, but nonetheless really sorry to hear @Knock_Loudly I can't even imagine whatthat must have been like, and at the risk of being repetitive, thanks for sharing.
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Please do not apologise! Thanks though for thanking me. As human beings life is about sharing stuff. We can spend a lot of time talking shit and mucking around but for me a real connection comes with others when I am open to sharing things or being vulnerable.
 
Trala said:
All these "thanks for sharing" is flashing me back to my NA meeting days!!!

Ha!

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
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I just held (cyber) hands with you ! ;)
 
Knock_Loudly said:
I just want to mention that being present when a person dies is a privilege and particularly for a loved one it made it easier.

Having worked in a hospital I was aware that a person in the throes of death, so to speak, will have a bowel movement. In the case of my mum, when we arrived in the morning to see her and we knew then that there would only be hours or days to go, the nurses were in her room and changing the sheets. We could all smell 'the smell'. Within five minutes of us arriving and on the stroke of 11 o'clock (AM) and one week to the day and hour of my mum entering hospital through Emergency, my mother passed away.

The nurses were lovely. The five of us present spent at least another 90 minutes crying, laughing and all that comes with losing someone that has been a part of your life forever. I am pleased that I was there for that moment.
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You are lucky to have had that moment. I'm sure it made it easier for your Mom. xo Penny
ETA: My name :)
 
Knock_Loudly said:
As a gay man and of my age, I have seen more death than I need to. A hell of a lot of people both friends and colleagues from the 80s and 90s and on are gone. Experiencing my mothers death helped me come to understand loss and grief. It happens every moment. Right now, someone has passed away. On the other hand, right now the joy of a newborn entering the world has also happened. Very yin and yang don't you think. :)
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I can't imagine growing up in the 80's and dealing with what a lot of gay people had to deal with back then and that frightening era of early HIV/AIDS which seemed to be the "gay" disease.

I am so lucky to be born in the time that I did and I very much appreciate all the previous gay and gay friendly people in the world who fought so hard for their human rights to be who they are. There is still a long way to go but without those people I wouldn't be able to be who I am today :singing:. The world is a lot less frightening for me thanks to them. :)
 
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