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Kismet said:
Just a tiptoe in. Not Tinder related but I met my FUBBY on the internet in 1998. We met F2F in 1999 and have been together since.
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I met my boy on an app (not tinder or grindr) and been best few months I have had in a LONG time, so there is definitely merit in it, the stigma has gone now too, very much the new normal :D
 
mutleyp said:
I met my boy on an app (not tinder or grindr) and been best few months I have had in a LONG time, so there is definitely merit in it, the stigma has gone now too, very much the new normal :D
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Oh I just did it so I could bag myself a youngen and train him! lol (he's 9 yrs younger than I am):thumbsup: *cougar purr*

Seriously though, not all people online are douche bags or psychos.

Considering I have seen you as nothing but an open person @mutleyp in your interactions on here alone, that may have a lot to do with why the last few months have been awesome. Is this particular boy you met a keeper in your life?:)
 
mutleyp said:
I met my boy on an app (not tinder or grindr) and been best few months I have had in a LONG time, so there is definitely merit in it, the stigma has gone now too, very much the new normal :D
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I admit I was so against the idea of meeting someone online. So I admit I wrote off my now hubby lol. Even telling people was an obstacle and we chose to tell people that we met through mutual friends which was kind of true in a way but not quite. Now it just seems silly that we felt we had to hide it and I really don't see it as a big deal. Times are changin'
 
Sweetgeek said:
I admit I was so against the idea of meeting someone online. So I admit I wrote off my now hubby lol. Even telling people was an obstacle and we chose to tell people that we met through mutual friends which was kind of true in a way but not quite. Now it just seems silly that we felt we had to hide it and I really don't see it as a big deal. Times are changin'
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I see it as no different to a pre internet "blind date" but even people of that particular era, see it differently for some reason? If anything it can be seen as safer as at least if you spend time to get to know the personality of the person behind the username and avi, you get a better sense of WHO they are, rather than perhaps what at one point they were pretending to be. Old style "Blind Dates"...no... possibility of that guy with a (supposed) "good personality", being a dork you have nothing in common with at all with a creepy, greasy comb-over and baked-bean teeth.

Either way, it's a matter of putting your trust elsewhere for that moment in time and also trusting your own instincts when it comes down to an actual "meet up". I met my FUB in a group of 5 setting with others from the same site in a public place. We all hit it off in RL too but he and I just had a better more intimate (as in humour, thoughts etc) connection. In hindsight, I know his mother had issues with me and the whole "interwebs" thing but her own paranoia was unfounded. I can understand your need at the time to hide it as if you were dealing with people like my "MIL" then your caution to talk about it, was warranted.
 
mutleyp said:
I met my boy on an app (not tinder or grindr) and been best few months I have had in a LONG time, so there is definitely merit in it, the stigma has gone now too, very much the new normal :D
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That's so good. I guess it's a good way to meet people you necessarily wouldn't cross paths with normally.
 
Cowie said:
My sister was amazed at how many people she knew were in long term relationships were on tinder. She was also amazed at how many our other sister (the one who picks up a different guy at least twice a month for the past five years) had shagged. She's like nup nup nup farrrk is there anybody in this town she hasn't shagged?

The assistant principal at my daughter's school swiped yes for my daughter's best friend's sister. Last week they had assembly and the sister went and the assistant principal avoided eye contact lol
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Tell me about it. My friends sister, her husband was caught on tinder and his reason was "to make friends".
 
Kismet said:
Oh I just did it so I could bag myself a youngen and train him! lol (he's 9 yrs younger than I am):thumbsup: *cougar purr*

Seriously though, not all people online are douche bags or psychos.

Considering I have seen you as nothing but an open person @mutleyp in your interactions on here alone, that may have a lot to do with why the last few months have been awesome. Is this particular boy you met a keeper in your life?:)
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Definitely, maybe not in the way we hope, but will always be a part in a way that is for sure, complicated... but worth it, I have to say though even though I might have a what was I thinking moment when I look at the past, anyone that has had part of my heart in whatever way stays there in some way too, I like to finish things in as good a way I can, I try anyway :D[DOUBLEPOST=1419119435][/DOUBLEPOST]
glamourama said:
That's so good. I guess it's a good way to meet people you necessarily wouldn't cross paths with normally.
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Thats exactly it!!
 
Sweetgeek said:
I admit I was so against the idea of meeting someone online. So I admit I wrote off my now hubby lol. Even telling people was an obstacle and we chose to tell people that we met through mutual friends which was kind of true in a way but not quite. Now it just seems silly that we felt we had to hide it and I really don't see it as a big deal. Times are changin'
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Completely changing, I mean meeting off tinder is so much the norm now, its funny how quickly it changes!
 
Kismet said:
I see it as no different to a pre internet "blind date" but even people of that particular era, see it differently for some reason? If anything it can be seen as safer as at least if you spend time to get to know the personality of the person behind the username and avi, you get a better sense of WHO they are, rather than perhaps what at one point they were pretending to be. Old style "Blind Dates"...no... possibility of that guy with a (supposed) "good personality", being a dork you have nothing in common with at all with a creepy, greasy comb-over and baked-bean teeth.

Either way, it's a matter of putting your trust elsewhere for that moment in time and also trusting your own instincts when it comes down to an actual "meet up". I met my FUB in a group of 5 setting with others from the same site in a public place. We all hit it off in RL too but he and I just had a better more intimate (as in humour, thoughts etc) connection. In hindsight, I know his mother had issues with me and the whole "interwebs" thing but her own paranoia was unfounded. I can understand your need at the time to hide it as if you were dealing with people like my "MIL" then your caution to talk about it, was warranted.
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I think of it the same too. It's just a more technology based outlet in terms of blind dating. In my case my hubby was mutual friends with some of my uni friends and based on a picture he tried to add me. I was a bitch I admit and ignored the request and ignored the message that came along with it. My defence is that I was 20 and just wanted to "live life". But eventually I caved in and after a few messages I added him. We did actually click but the idea that it was online scared me so I never thought it would be much more, although I would be lying if I said I was not instantly attracted to him but again my excuse was I was 20 with raging hormones lol. But one day I was shopping for shoes and I went to pay for them when he came into the store and paid for them right then and there, he then asked my brother (who I was babysitting at the time) if he liked chocolate milkshake and asked if we could join him at one of the cafes and that was that. We never used MySpace to talk or message one another after that. It was used as a starting point, but all our proper moments were off line anyways. I feel it was just as magical getting to know someone this way (in my case more so) as it was to meet someone in person.
 
Gemini said:
Ha! I was just thinking this recently.

I remember briefly dating this guy in high school. On our first date I had offered to drive because he lost his licence and he spent the whole drive telling me everything that was wrong with my car and my driving. Anyway he suggested we go to Hungry Jacks (not even Maccas...Hungry Jacks) and I agreed knowing he had just spent all his money on a driving fine. Anyway we get there and he reminds me that I'll need to pay for both of us because he's broke. On the way home he asked me if we could stop by his mate's place and drive them all to a club. I couldn't go into the club because I was too young but he went in with his mates anyway...then asked me to come get them at 4am.

I stayed with him for a couple of weeks.

Absolutely a "wtf was I thinking" period.
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This reminds of a female housemate (whose name eludes me for the time being) last year who spoilt rotten another male housemate who never quite reciprocated her endless unconditional showers of affection. *tongue-in-cheek* ;) :angelic: :p

It's all starting to make sense now... :whistling:
 
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Well you are a very attractive man.

I would say hitting on you for sure.
 
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