Right? I'm so glad I'm going through one of my what I call Single Ladies phase where I really just don't want anyone near me at all in the relationship sense. So much easier, really.
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Right? I'm so glad I'm going through one of my what I call Single Ladies phase where I really just don't want anyone near me at all in the relationship sense. So much easier, really.
Totally agree. I'm lucky - 20 FUCKING years I've been with my husband, but there's been (predominantly) excellent times, and horrible times too... I firmly believe as long as there's a mutually high level of respect, and a good sex life though, you can partner up for life.
I should also add, I was a mad slapper (and he was WORSE) before we hooked up, so many biscuits were sampled.. ;-)
Miiiiike
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Aha, very important to have what people call a "slut phase" I think!
Aged 17-19 was indeed that phase ;-)
jessy_girl
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I get you, honestly I'm either usually like 100% single or not, there isn't much room in between for me and I'd say it's always by choice, either way. I can't believe how smug some partnered people get when they pity single people, I know when I've been single I've not wanted it to change, certainly not just for the sake of it.
jessy_girl
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Well it sounds like you have a good relationship anyway, you are obviously compatible and have shared goals which is why you've lasted so long I guess!
Always good to hear!!
Tell me about it! And I generally hate the whole, "Oh, don't worry, you'll find someone soon enough!" like... so rude. That shouldn't be The End Goal for anyone. I'm a firm believer in being 100% perfectly secure and happy within yourself (comfortable in your solitude, etc.) before you run off trying to attach yourself to someone. I know too many people who think that getting a partner will solve all of their problems, but it really won't. And I know plenty of people who genuinely think that their life can only begin once they find "the one." Super, super gross and completely wrong to me.
And plz don't get me started on those people who go through a new batch of "true loves" every couple of months. Ridiculous.
Not sure if I would want to go on a date with you after that considering what happened to the first Mrs. @Miiiiike!
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jessy_girl
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No I'm right there with you gurl, that whole "hang in there" mentality is so patronising but also so infuriating as it's not been important to everyone nor should it be. I have so many friends who just cannot be single, and seem to prefer being in very bad relationships to being single which I find so sad. One friend was talking to me and another girl years ago and saying "how can you just happily be single?" not understanding that we were not willing to attach ourselves to just anyone for the sake of it.
Really everyone should be more like you and me, how much better the world would be then!
It's annoying that society has made people feel like getting partnered up is one of the most important, fundamental parts of the human experience. Even I, with my ice cold heart, end up feeling like shit come Valentine's Day and whatnot, and I get so mad at myself for subconsciously buying into all of that crap. It's very sad that people stick themselves in toxic situations just because of this thing that gets drilled into our heads by the media. Kinda scary, too.
And you're right, more people like you and I would be fantastic! As long as they don't decided to play golf of all things.
OMG! That song! repeatedly after my breakup then during hard time, then was my tumblr name when I had tumblr!!! That is crazy!!! And I thought it too, but you will mah boy, you will xxx
This is so true re comfortable with yourself first, otherwise you make the person your with your "medicine" then add pressure on them, so its never going to end well, and when it does you left completely disproportionality devastated, vicious cycle! But I have to say for me personally I do enjoy being in a relationship more, not just cos, but I find the trust and respect really one of my core values, and once thats there you can experience more things, more adventurous, and as I have gotten older I do tend to "fall" quicker if I connect with someone. One guy I was talking to not that long ago before I met my boy was very full on, and I let it go really quickly, following him on some social media though he literally has a new "boyfriend" every few weeks, so Im glad I never went there!
Miiiiike
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Morning all!
It'll be one of those surprise dates where you can't say no, a black van will pull up beside you and you get pulled into the back, and when you wake up you will be on our 'date'
Not sure if I would want to go on a date with you after that considering what happened to the first Mrs. @Miiiiike!
It'll be one of those surprise dates where you can't say no, a black van will pull up beside you and you get pulled into the back, and when you wake up you will be on our 'date'
The secret is to enjoy dancing on your own.
I took a vow of celibacy (and I don't mean sell a bit either...) when my son was 3-4. I took it because I didn't want my son to grow up seeing all that, then reflect on my actions later. I was very religious at the time so I promised God the next time I would throw my leg over it would be for love.
5 years later, I met my partner. The 5 years I was single was the best thing I ever did. In that time I learned to accept myself, be good to myself and as a side note, I became the best lover I have EVER had.
People say I am "so lucky" to be with a man like Kai. But quite frankly, I wouldn't have settled for anything less.
Miiiiike
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Hey!Good morning OT'ers!!!
Night shift tonight!!!
Me---->
Me too unfortunately. Back tonight after 7 days off.
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