From
TV Tonight
Australian Story: Nov 1
When he came out publicly on Big Brother 2006 it was a coming out for television audiences too.
Big Brother fans had warmed quickly to the handsome “Farmer Dave” from Queensland. But as he told his housemates he was “the token gay” on the TEN reality show, not all of his family had been fully aware of his sexuality.
On Monday’s Australian Story, Graham talks about coming out, living up to the expectations of a father who held traditional views.
“It was very strange. Was it a father saying, ‘Forgive me for being not the perfect father’? Or was it a father saying, ‘I forgive you for not being the perfect son’? I don’t know what it was and what it meant, but I’m glad it happened,” he says.
David Graham was destined to a life on the land. As the youngest of a family with agriculture in its DNA, David’s future in farming was his birth-right.
Like generations of Graham men before him, David had been anointed heir apparent to the family property in rural Queensland.
Then, a moment in 2006 challenged this sense of inevitability.
When David ‘came out’ on national television, his already strained relationship with his traditionalist and homophobic father was tested to its limits.
While his profile as a gay identity soared, his intensely private and conservative family challenged David’s decision to declare his sexuality so publicly and without their prior knowledge.
Moreover, some in the family questioned his motivation and competence to inherit the family legacy.
Now, after several years of soul searching, David is forging a city career, while still working towards his dream of returning to the family property.
As he maintains a contentious presence in the National Party, and harbours ambitions for a political future, David still struggles to balance his need to live an honest and personally fulfilling life, with his desire to honour his family heritage.
Australian Story, introduced by Kate Ceberano, airs 8pm Monday on ABC1.