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Khun Khun said:
Haven't been a bride, but being a bridesmaid was slightly unnerving having everyone looking at them, us, me. Confirmed for me another reason why I didn't want to be a bride, lol.
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jessy_girl said:
Ugh, yes, to add on to this my sister wants me to be her maid of honour. I will do it of course but how much do I not want to.
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I've never been a bridesmaid, but I did walk my sister down the aisle when she got married (in the absence of our father and my mother didn't want to do it) - that wasn't as bad because I knew in my head they were looking at her not me.
For my own, if you knew what was going through my head as I was walking down the aisle you'd think I was a bit crazy - don't trip don't trip what are they looking at I hope my bra isn't showing oh it's showing I know it is don't trip what are they talking about do I look fat in this when am i ever going to get to the end of this aisle oops I just made eye contact abort abort look straight ahead don't trip.
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Insomniac said:
I've never been a bridesmaid, but I did walk my sister down the aisle when she got married (in the absence of our father and my mother didn't want to do it) - that wasn't as bad because I knew in my head they were looking at her not me.
For my own, if you knew what was going through my head as I was walking down the aisle you'd think I was a bit crazy - don't trip don't trip what are they looking at I hope my bra isn't showing oh it's showing I know it is don't trip what are they talking about do I look fat in this when am i ever going to get to the end of this aisle oops I just made eye contact abort abort look straight ahead don't trip.
Yep.
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LOL, I was packing death (there's an old phrase) walking down the aisle, shaking like a leaf because everyone was looking at me and it was a very important day for my besties. I winked at the groom and he winked back and people were saying to me afterwards 'did you see him wink at you?' 'Yes, because I winked first' said me. I was avoiding eye contact with everyone else too. You kind of don't see anyone do you really.
 
Insomniac said:
I've never been a bridesmaid, but I did walk my sister down the aisle when she got married (in the absence of our father and my mother didn't want to do it) - that wasn't as bad because I knew in my head they were looking at her not me.
For my own, if you knew what was going through my head as I was walking down the aisle you'd think I was a bit crazy - don't trip don't trip what are they looking at I hope my bra isn't showing oh it's showing I know it is don't trip what are they talking about do I look fat in this when am i ever going to get to the end of this aisle oops I just made eye contact abort abort look straight ahead don't trip.
Yep.
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Hahaha well I'd be exactly the same I think. Even this bridesmaid gig, I have to say, tripping is a very real fear.
 
Weddings always seem so strange to me with all their traditions and what not. Gives me the heebie- jeebies they do just thinking about it.
 
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reepbot said:
Weddings always seem so strange to me with all their traditions and what not. Gives me the heebie- jeebies they do just thinking about it.
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Well we "had" to get married in a church because of my husband's family (he even has nuns in his family) so there was that whole formal thing. Apart from that our reception was quite good. Speeches were kept to an absolute minimum at my request and everyone seemed to have fun. All I wanted to do was get out of that damn dress and shoes.

If I had my time over again I'd probably just have a few close friends, ditch the long lost 'obligation invite' relatives, and just do someting simple with a few drinks afterwards. Or elope.
 
Insomniac said:
Well we "had" to get married in a church because of my husband's family (he even has nuns in his family) so there was that whole formal thing. Apart from that our reception was quite good. Speeches were kept to an absolute minimum at my request and everyone seemed to have fun. All I wanted to do was get out of that damn dress and shoes.

If I had my time over again I'd probably just have a few close friends, ditch the long lost 'obligation invite' relatives, and just do someting simple with a few drinks afterwards. Or elope.
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I have read about this tradition where the boyfriend asks the girlfriend's father permission to marry her or something lije that. That seems kind of strange to me.
 
reepbot said:
I have read about this tradition where the boyfriend asks the girlfriend's father permission to marry her or something lije that. That seems kind of strange to me.
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I don't know if it's still done anywhere, I guess it is? I didn't even think of stuff like that, only my mum since I was 11. Her only stipulation was she didn't want to walk me up the aisle and didn't want to give a speech. Way out of her comfort zone too.
There are so many old-fashioned traditions though - one of the ones we did was not see each other the night before the wedding (even though we were living together at the time). And the something borrowed something blue etc rubbish lol.
 
Insomniac said:
I don't know if it's still done anywhere, I guess it is? I didn't even think of stuff like that, only my mum since I was 11. Her only stipulation was she didn't want to walk me up the aisle and didn't want to give a speech. Way out of her comfort zone too.
There are so many old-fashioned traditions though - one of the ones we did was not see each other the night before the wedding (even though we were living together at the time). And the something borrowed something blue etc rubbish lol.
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I read about it on reddit. It seems to be done in America.
 
reepbot said:
I read about it on reddit. It seems to be done in America.
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I always wonder - what if the father says no? Would the girl just say see ya? lol

Edit: I think it stems from the 'tradition' that the bride's family pays for the wedding. I don't even know if that happens these days. For mine, we paid for most of it ourselves.
 
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Insomniac said:
I always wonder - what if the father says no? Would the girl just say see ya? lol

Edit: I think it stems from the 'tradition' that the bride's family pays for the wedding. I don't even know if that happens these days. For mine, we paid for most of it ourselves.
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I hope not.
 
Mooseface said:
Well...I dont know...I mean my life is my life and for the most part it is interesting and often fun but sometimes its boring and sometimes stressful/painful... I mean I AM grateful for it... But I guess a romantic comedy might just be MORE fun??!
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A romantic comedy seems cheesy and boring.
 
reepbot said:
I have read about this tradition where the boyfriend asks the girlfriend's father permission to marry her or something lije that. That seems kind of strange to me.
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My sister's partner did ask my dad, but that's just because he's such a suck up. It was nice that he did it I guess, it's a bit antiquated. My dad also also asked my grandfather ahead of finally having my mother, but considering by that stage they already had 3 kids it was a bit pointless, as if he'd say no! Although my great grandfather said no 3 times to my grandfather but he must have come around at some point.
 
All of these traditions and rituals are part of the experience if you are people who enjoy and/or respect these things. I think Dad asked my grandfather for Mum's hand in marriage and I'm fairly sure my grandfather would've expected him to. I know my friend who I winked at asked his future father in law. I know my parents had wedding money set aside for us girls. No idea what they've done with the money now.
 
jessy_girl said:
My sister's partner did ask my dad, but that's just because he's such a suck up. It was nice that he did it I guess, it's a bit antiquated. My dad also also asked my grandfather ahead of finally having my mother, but considering by that stage they already had 3 kids it was a bit pointless, as if he'd say no! Although my great grandfather said no 3 times to my grandfather but he must have come around at some point.
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Three times does sound like a lot. I could never do that whole permission thing if i was ever in a position to do such a thing.
 
reepbot said:
Three times does sound like a lot. I could never do that whole permission thing if i was ever in a position to do such a thing.
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As I recall it was because although Jewish he was very conservative and my great grandfather has loftier goals for his daughter marrying someone more... Orthodox, I think? There may be more to it.
 
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