So Tully has been telling Drew (and anyone who will listen) that before Tahlia, she was dating guys. She has been making it rpetty clear that she hasn't been in female relationships for long and that everyone in her network of family and friends know that sh'es always been about boys.. Until Tahlia... So I folllowed the link in another thread to her Tumblr page and found the following excerpt very interesting. In it, she claims to have been dating women for the past 7 years and one man. Does she just rewrite history when it's convenient or does she really believe her own web of lies?
5 TIPS ON DATING A GIRL WHO IS ONLY ‘KINDA-SORTA-MAYBE’ OUT TO HER FAMILY & FRIENDS
Published on Autostraddle.com, June 11, 2012
As somebody who is kinda sorta still in this position — despite dating women now for over seven years — I feel as if it’s almost my duty to offer you some insight and advice on how to make this less-than-ideal situation work for you.
To give you a bit of background, as far as my parents were aware I was straight, right up until I brought home my first girlfriend. It went a little like this:
Me: Dad, this is Stef. She’s staying at ours tonight.
Dad: (looking at Stef, who had a shaved head and was wearing a t-shirt that read ‘Saturday Night Beaver’) Hi Stef. Can I get you a drink?
And Stef stayed at ours pretty much every other night for the next 3 years.
That being said, nothing regarding my sexuality was really openly declared or spoken about until we broke up, at which point it became hard for my family to have a conversation at the breakfast table due to the horrendous wailing coming from my bedroom.
Since then, I have dated other women, one guy (it was a weird time in my life okay) and finally, my current girlfriend Tahlia. Whilst the ‘L’ word still hasn’t been brought up, I now bring Tahlia to all of my family events, refer to her openly as my girlfriend on Facebook and upload photo upon photo of her doing cutesy things like ‘sleeping’ and ‘wearing a hat’ to Instagram, followed by 52 love heart emoticons.
Put simply, everybody knows — even if we don’t refer to it specifically. Interestingly, however, when I first started dating Tahlia, she was a few years behind me on the coming out timeline. A good four years my junior, she had moved to the big smoke from the coastal town she grew up in and although her mum was all over it, other family members and childhood friends still were none the wiser. This made for an interesting first few months, especially as for once I was the “friend” who was suddenly making appearances at family functions, something I’d never experienced before.
To those who are experiencing similar situations, I give you my 5 top tips to surviving the awkward “This is my…..friend….” stage.
Here's the link to her page:
http://youngbloodcreativeblog.tumblr.com/
