General O/T Chit Chat Thread

[iJake]

Looks ain't everything you know. He might be not as attractive as car guy but if you get along really well and stuff perhaps you should give him a go. He may become even more attractive to you as time goes on.

I've only ever been in two relationships (one silly teenager type, and one proper living together type) and in both cases, initially I had "issues" with their appearance, but you're right, people get more attractive the more you like them, which is an interesting thing to happen I think, but I really like it.

 

[Lucas]

I'm actually 79 and looking for an unsuspecting donor.

LOL! I didn't get that when first reading that post but when I clicked back it suddenly hit me.

 

[bleachy_dude]

I had probably my first drama free birthday ever today. I'm glad I've moved on from letting "social expectations" get to me (I hate the idea of having parties, and getting too much attention), and I'm glad not to have had an earth shattering, hellish existential day just because I managed to live for another year.

I'm glad that you enjoyed day mate. Being your birthday you should do what makes you happy and it sounds like you did. Well done.

If you don't mind me asking, I saw you say another time that you don't like going out in the daytime. Tell me to mind my own business if you want and I will respectfully forget and not ask again, but is that because of social anxiety?

 

[iJake]

It was your birthday today? Happy Birthday Jake!

Take a dance with me to "Running Up That Hill" please.

I'm the same. I hate a big fuss and everything. Just wish me a happy birthday and let me be!

Haha, thanks!

Yeah, I decided to just spend the day doing things by myself, for myself. I went and got a haircut to make myself feel/look nice (even tho ofc I look hot all the time ), and then I went into the city and got wasted and went to art galleries and had a really lovely time. No fuss, just enjoying my own company, since it was/is my birthday after all! "It's my party and I'll not have a party and just spend the day having fun by myself if I want to."

 

[Lucas]

Haha, thanks!

Yeah, I decided to just spend the day doing things by myself, for myself. I went and got a haircut to make myself feel/look nice (even tho ofc I look hot all the time ), and then I went into the city and got wasted and went to art galleries and had a really lovely time. No fuss, just enjoying my own company, since it was/is my birthday after all! "It's my party and I'll not have a party and just spend the day having fun by myself if I want to."

Sounds like you had a good day. And it's your birthday, you should do what you want.

 

[iJake]

I'm glad that you enjoyed day mate. Being your birthday you should do what makes you happy and it sounds like you did. Well done.

If you don't mind me asking, I saw you say another time that you don't like going out in the daytime. Tell me to mind my own business if you want and I will respectfully forget and not ask again, but is that because of social anxiety?

Thanks.

My aversion to daytime is in part to do with the fact that I used to be one of the goth kids and thus hated the sun and everything associated with it (and I still do, haha! I prefer to look as sickly and pale as possible while still looking cuuuute lol), but yeah, most of it does boil down to social anxiety. I really struggle with spending too much time out of the house during the day if I'm on my own, so I generally only venture out if I have someone to hang out with, and even then sometimes it's tough. I was pretty much fine today though, which I'm super proud of, and yes it may have been because I wasn't necessarily sober, but whatever!

(also, I'm literally the most open book, don't ever feel like you can't ask me anything, or whatever )

 

[bleachy_dude]

Thanks.

My aversion to daytime is in part to do with the fact that I used to be one of the goth kids and thus hated the sun and everything associated with it (and I still do, haha! I prefer to look as sickly and pale as possible while still looking cuuuute lol), but yeah, most of it does boil down to social anxiety. I really struggle with spending too much time out of the house during the day if I'm on my own, so I generally only venture out if I have someone to hang out with, and even then sometimes it's tough. I was pretty much fine today though, which I'm super proud of, and yes it may have been because I wasn't necessarily sober, but whatever!

(also, I'm literally the most open book, don't ever feel like you can't ask me anything, or whatever )

Thanks for sharing. So do you have a social group or at least a friend or two you meet up with like regularly? Or is that a rare occasion type thing?

And do you work?

 

[jessy_girl]

Happy belated birthday @iJake. I'm so not into even acknowledging my birthday, part of it is of course denial over my increasing age but really I find it so awkward and embarrassing for someone to make a fuss. I get that being alive and living another year is worth celebrating, but it's not like I'm special, loads of people have a birthday every day!

 

[iJake]

Thanks for sharing. So do you have a social group or at least a friend or two you meet up with?

And do you work?

I don't really have a social group per se, just a handful of friends (I'd say I consider about five people to be my actual friends, with perhaps a few on the sidelines) that are mostly unrelated to one another, which I kind of prefer because I'm not really a fan of groups or group mentality. I feel like I work better one-on-one as well, although depending on my mood I can be quite good with large groups. It all depends. I only see about two people on a weekly basis, though.

I've been unemployed for about seventeen months now I think, mostly due to my depression hitting me really hard early last year. I've been trying to find work for a couple months now though with a disability agency or whatever they're called, but it's been a bit hard unfortunately. It doesn't help that I don't really want a "normal" job anyway, but eh.

 

[bleachy_dude]

I don't really have a social group per se, just a handful of friends (I'd say I consider about five people to be my actual friends, with perhaps a few on the sidelines) that are mostly unrelated to one another, which I kind of prefer because I'm not really a fan of groups or group mentality. I feel like I work better one-on-one as well, although depending on my mood I can be quite good with large groups. It all depends. I only see about two people on a weekly basis, though.

I've been unemployed for about seventeen months now I think, mostly due to my depression hitting me really hard early last year. I've been trying to find work for a couple months now though with a disability agency or whatever they're called, but it's been a bit hard unfortunately. It doesn't help that I don't really want a "normal" job anyway, but eh.

Sorry to hear you've struggled to find meaningful employment mate. Mental health is seriously misunderstood and not taken seriosuly enough by many in society.

 

[iJake]

Sorry to hear you've struggled to find meaningful employment mate. Mental health is seriously misunderstood and not taken seriosuly enough by many in society.

Very true! I'm doing a lot better lately (in fact, I'll be going off my antidepressants next week I believe!) so hopefully things pick up and I can get a job to support my actual career ventures. I have four years work experience too (I was employed consistently from sixteen onwards), so it kinda sucks that nobody seems to be taking that into consideration, but eh, it's tough for anyone to find a job these days, it seems.

 

[bleachy_dude]

Very true! I'm doing a lot better lately (in fact, I'll be going off my antidepressants next week I believe!) so hopefully things pick up and I can get a job to support my actual career ventures. I have four years work experience too (I was employed consistently from sixteen onwards), so it kinda sucks that nobody seems to be taking that into consideration, but eh, it's tough for anyone to find a job these days, it seems.

Onwards and upwards hey. Good to see your positive attitude.
Chookas on the job-finding front.

What's your dream, career wise?

 

[iJake]

Onwards and upwards hey. Good to see your positive attitude.
Chookas on the job-finding front.

What's your dream, career wise?

I plan on being a writer/general artist type. I do a lot of different art stuff– I write, I paint, I've done a bit of acting (I was actually in a play during this year's Adelaide Fringe Festival, which was a lot of fun, and a big fuck you to my anxiety too!), I do a bit of music on the rare occasion... that sorta thing. But the focus is on writing and becoming a respected and cherished author.

 

[bleachy_dude]

I plan on being a writer/general artist type. I do a lot of different art stuff– I write, I paint, I've done a bit of acting (I was actually in a play during this year's Adelaide Fringe Festival, which was a lot of fun, and a big fuck you to my anxiety too!), I do a bit of music on the rare occasion... that sorta thing. But the focus is on writing and becoming a respected and cherished author.

Cool. Have you ever written anything yet that you have wanted to actually publish?

And that's pretty awesome being in a play at the fringe festival. So great!

 

[iJake]

Cool. Have you ever written anything yet that you have wanted to actually publish?

And that's pretty awesome being in a play at the fringe festival. So great!

Oh yeah, there's quite a nice amount of publishable content in the ol' back catalogue. I mostly write short stories, so there's quite a few different "collections" that work. I tend to write stories in groups, with the stories sort of interlocking in both subtle and obvious ways, or at least pertaining to a common theme. I tend to think of them like concept albums, as I'm mostly inspired by music rather than other strictly literary material, at least in presentation.

Before the depression hit I was actually in the middle of refining a nice solid collection that I was planning on self publishing (and then 'touring' doing live readings with various theatrics thrown in), but yeah, I kinda lost the drive for it. But now that I'm feeling like myself again I'm slowly starting the process of getting it all back on track, which is exciting. I also just this week got over a very enduring writer's block, which is honestly elating.

 

[MADONNA]

I agree with @Lucas. @MADONNA , possessive sends out warning lights to me. Oh, car guy is a great name, so what can we call the other guy?

INDEED.

Let's call the other guy Cool-and-really-fun-with-lots-in-common-but-uglier-guy.

 

[MADONNA]

oh HAPPY BIRTHGAY, @iJake

 

[Lucas]

Oh yeah, there's quite a nice amount of publishable content in the ol' back catalogue. I mostly write short stories, so there's quite a few different "collections" that work. I tend to write stories in groups, with the stories sort of interlocking in both subtle and obvious ways, or at least pertaining to a common theme. I tend to think of them like concept albums, as I'm mostly inspired by music rather than other strictly literary material, at least in presentation.

Before the depression hit I was actually in the middle of refining a nice solid collection that I was planning on self publishing (and then 'touring' doing live readings with various theatrics thrown in), but yeah, I kinda lost the drive for it. But now that I'm feeling like myself again I'm slowly starting the process of getting it all back on track, which is exciting. I also just this week got over a very enduring writer's block, which is honestly elating.

Sounds very cool Jake.

 

[iJake]

Sounds very cool Jake.

Thanks dude. I'm definitely one of those very typical artists that thinks everything he does sucks and blah blah blah, so it's nice when people find the things I do cool; it feeds that also very typical artist ego.

 

[qtkt]

INDEED.

Let's call the other guy Cool-and-really-fun-with-lots-in-common-but-uglier-guy.

lol That's a bit of a mouth-ful. And pun definitely NOT intended. I'm a good lady-like priest.