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Rheumatoid Arthritis I would guess?


That's me, and yes RA is short for Rheumatoid Arthritis, mostly under control with meds, the meds mean I cannot drink or smoke cigarettes
The meds are a small dose of chemo that can kill your liver/kidneys if you drink etc as well, allowed one standard drink a day
I don't like alcohol much anyway, so I have champagne for Christmas/Birthdays if I remember.
I have forgotten alcohol
 
That's me, and yes RA is short for Rheumatoid Arthritis, mostly under control with meds, the meds mean I cannot drink or smoke cigarettes
The meds are a small dose of chemo that can kill your liver/kidneys if you drink etc as well, allowed one standard drink a day
I don't like alcohol much anyway, so I have champagne for Christmas/Birthdays if I remember.
I have forgotten alcohol

Sorry, I thought Mooseface's posts were two separate questions.
Good that you are managing it with medication, that's the main thing.
I don't drink or smoke, never have (I mean regularly, not that I've never tried it).
 
Your back condition sounds scary @Meglos......hope the pain management is working

I have back issues, from car accidents, and they wanted to do a fusion......years later glad i said no
Weirdly my back is too flexible/bendy, plus injuries, and turns out I have an extra vertebrae......and stuff like this is common in large families
Back pain is horrific......closest thing I can think of is toothache
Chiropractors sort me out
 
Crikey rough thread. I'm sorry for all feeling pain and struggling with illness and sore backs etc. I hope the fun on the TV brings you all some relief.

I saw @declan post about dreams and I thought I would relate my story.

Just recently I had to get a full medical for Life Insurance purposes. Anyway for about a year i have been having the most vivid nightmares pretty regularly, messed up my sleep patterns. Some of them can seem like a full length feature film they are that clear and pretty scary.
Anyway during my medical i mentioned this to my Doctor. What a mistake that was haha start of a journey.

So he says nightmares a symptom of Depression or PTSD or anxiety. I said nah nah I'm right its none of those and truly I'm ok in that area. So he said look i think i need to refer you on, depression is a silent killer blah blah. I dont feel depressed or anything so i pushed back on that idea a bit. He said the other thing it could be is sleep apnoea. So he refers to another Doctor that calls himself the sleep Doctor, fair dinkum. But he specialises in sleep disorders. So i go see him and next minute I find myself booked in for three surgeries and replacing all my teeth. All for a few nightmares hahaha.

Story is that when I was a younger man I played Rugby in fact I played for 26 years straight. From under 10's till i gave it away aged 36. This of course was in the days before they changed the rules and it was a much more brutal sport and i was a forward and was right amongst the brutality it. I loved it mind you and would not change a thing. However during the course of my career i did suffer some head injuries. I broke my nose a number of times. I broke my jaw and fractured my eye socket.

So the sleep Doctor is checking me out and says your head is a mess were you in a car accident. Thanks Doc no but I have had a couple of knocks.

So it turns out that my jaw which was fixed obviously after i broke it and had a titanium plate inserted has moved sideways. So think of an overbite or underbite I have a side bite, if i close my mouth my bottom and top teeth dont meet. This was probably caused by the head collision which fractured my eye socket after i broke my jaw and was not picked up at the time.

So apparently i dont get enough oxygen at night which causes the nightmares and is likely also for my headaches which i get about daily.

The cure. We are going to repair your septum and nasal passages, then a week after that operation we are going to take you back in break your jaw in two places and unhinge it at the skull, then we going to remove the existing plate and replace it with a new one oh and by the way we are going to remove all of your teeth, drill into the jawbone stick screws in there which your new fake teeth will fit onto. You will be wired shut for 8 weeks.

Crikey Doc I said talk about friggin nightmares, you've just given me one.

So I had my nose done today all being well I will be home tomorrow and next Sunday back into hospital for surgery Monday, two surgeons and all. Then 8 weeks of liquid diet. All because i complained about a few nightmares. Moral of the story never tell your doctor any bloody thing.
 
OMG @adsyj .......what a freaking horror story

And, who knew dreams can be part of a diagnosis, sounds like you have some pretty special and acutely aware doctors

The sleep apnoea is freaky, and with all of those head and nose injuries you would likely have that?
Boy you sure punished that body.

An ex of mine had sleep apnoea from his stuffed and once broken nose, snored so much it ended our relationship......you cannot love someone if you never get to sleep.
Anyway, it was an experience to watch, they stop breathing, seems like ages, then gasp and back to snoring
So they often die during that stop breathing part
 
Crikey rough thread. I'm sorry for all feeling pain and struggling with illness and sore backs etc. I hope the fun on the TV brings you all some relief.

I saw @declan post about dreams and I thought I would relate my story.

Just recently I had to get a full medical for Life Insurance purposes. Anyway for about a year i have been having the most vivid nightmares pretty regularly, messed up my sleep patterns. Some of them can seem like a full length feature film they are that clear and pretty scary.
Anyway during my medical i mentioned this to my Doctor. What a mistake that was haha start of a journey.

So he says nightmares a symptom of Depression or PTSD or anxiety. I said nah nah I'm right its none of those and truly I'm ok in that area. So he said look i think i need to refer you on, depression is a silent killer blah blah. I dont feel depressed or anything so i pushed back on that idea a bit. He said the other thing it could be is sleep apnoea. So he refers to another Doctor that calls himself the sleep Doctor, fair dinkum. But he specialises in sleep disorders. So i go see him and next minute I find myself booked in for three surgeries and replacing all my teeth. All for a few nightmares hahaha.

Story is that when I was a younger man I played Rugby in fact I played for 26 years straight. From under 10's till i gave it away aged 36. This of course was in the days before they changed the rules and it was a much more brutal sport and i was a forward and was right amongst the brutality it. I loved it mind you and would not change a thing. However during the course of my career i did suffer some head injuries. I broke my nose a number of times. I broke my jaw and fractured my eye socket.

So the sleep Doctor is checking me out and says your head is a mess were you in a car accident. Thanks Doc no but I have had a couple of knocks.

So it turns out that my jaw which was fixed obviously after i broke it and had a titanium plate inserted has moved sideways. So think of an overbite or underbite I have a side bite, if i close my mouth my bottom and top teeth dont meet. This was probably caused by the head collision which fractured my eye socket after i broke my jaw and was not picked up at the time.

So apparently i dont get enough oxygen at night which causes the nightmares and is likely also for my headaches which i get about daily.

The cure. We are going to repair your septum and nasal passages, then a week after that operation we are going to take you back in break your jaw in two places and unhinge it at the skull, then we going to remove the existing plate and replace it with a new one oh and by the way we are going to remove all of your teeth, drill into the jawbone stick screws in there which your new fake teeth will fit onto. You will be wired shut for 8 weeks.

Crikey Doc I said talk about friggin nightmares, you've just given me one.

So I had my nose done today all being well I will be home tomorrow and next Sunday back into hospital for surgery Monday, two surgeons and all. Then 8 weeks of liquid diet. All because i complained about a few nightmares. Moral of the story never tell your doctor any bloody thing.

Wow! What a story! I'm sure it will be worth it in the long run and something your better off doing sooner rather than later. They sound like some brilliant doctors
 
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Yes @kxk they call it obstructed apnoea. If I sleep on my back the snoring is horrific it even wakes me up. On my side no worries.

My wife is a gem she is a Flight attendant and is away sometimes 5 nights, she calls it her holiday from my snoring haha.
 
Wow @adsyj who would have thought there could be that much damage lurking. Sounds lije the next few months are going to be really tough for you. Blessings for a full and speedy recovery - and a bit of amnesia to help you forget the nasty bits quickly.
 
Oh. Things getting a wee bit jumbled. RA is rheumatoid arthritis. Ok.

But the other spine-nerve condition, does it have a medical name? I’d tell D to discuss it with his doctor if so. Might help, given translation issues ...
 
Oh. Things getting a wee bit jumbled. RA is rheumatoid arthritis. Ok.

But the other spine-nerve condition, does it have a medical name? I’d tell D to discuss it with his doctor if so. Might help, given translation issues ...

I don't have the actual paperwork or the physical x-rays on mine, they are all on the doctor's computer, so I don't know all the technicalities yet. I only found out on Thursday, before then all we knew is I had a "bad back".

If it is similar to what your partner has, it causes sharp pains, not only in the lower back often in the left leg and even knee.
 
I don't have the actual paperwork or the physical x-rays on mine, they are all on the doctor's computer, so I don't know all the technicalities yet. I only found out on Thursday, before then all we knew is I had a "bad back".

If it is similar to what your partner has, it causes sharp pains, not only in the lower back often in the left leg and even knee.
His issue is the spine and right hip/leg. His knee seems fine. I think he is due to get an MRI. He complains a lot and recently has been getting cortisone injections, which work well for a short time, but wear off quite quickly. It doesn’t sound fun, so I hope both of you can get it sorted.
 
@delcan Here is an article from Deakin Uni regarding dreams, may be helpful I hope:)

How to make sense of your dreams

The following article is written by happiness expert and psychologist Dr Melissa Weinberg from Deakin University’s School of Psychology.

Since the dawn of time, dreams have been a fascinating and intriguing element of the human experience. From Jacob’s dream in the Old Testament, to Shakespeare’s A Midsummer Night’s Dream, to Martin Luther King’s ‘I have a dream’ speech, dreams have sparked curiosity that transcends time and culture.

So why are they still so mysterious? Why, when we go to sleep at night, do our thoughts, feelings and memories all have a party inside our heads?

Why do we dream?
Although it’s easy to dismiss dreams as meaningless and uninformative, various theories of why we dream and the mountain of evidence linking disturbed dreaming to psychopathology suggests otherwise.

Sigmund Freud suggested dreams represent the desires and wishes repressed from conscious thought during waking life. Accordingly, dreams provide an opportunity to live out and express thoughts that might otherwise be considered inappropriate.

A more contemporary approach to this is the idea is the continuity hypothesis; that the moods and thoughts we experience in waking life carry over into our dreams, and vice versa. This means if we’re happy when we’re awake, we’ll have pleasant dreams, and if we have pleasant dreams, we’ll wake up in a good mood. The same goes for relating anxiety and stress to disturbing dreams.

Another prominent theory is that we use dreams to cope with stress, or to work through problems experienced in waking life. We typically dream during REM sleep, while the release of stress hormones is suppressed. This allows us to explore stressful events in a dream state without the same emotional intensity that accompanies them in waking hours.

Through the process of fragmentation in dreams, a stressful event is deconstructed into smaller elements, which are then reconfigured in a different way to allow us to explore different ways to cope. The new stream of imagery our brain produces may seem nonsensical as it replays our original fears and anxieties in a new context, safely removed from the original setting.

Bad dreams and nightmares
According to the scientific literature, while bad dreams and nightmares may both be disturbing to the sleeper, the distinguishing feature between a bad dream and a nightmare is whether or not the sleeper wakes. Though bad dreams are very common, nightmares generally occur in just 4-to-10% of the population.
In both bad dreams and nightmares, emotional content can include anger, disgust and grief. But typically the primary emotion experienced is fear.
Nightmares typically signal unresolved conflict. When you have a nightmare, it will often wake you up because the emotional content of the dream is so intense that the brain mobilises the body for action. People who experience frequent nightmares typically report higher levels of anxiety and distress, and lower levels of wellbeing. If you experience frequent nightmares that might be an indication that it’s time to seek help from a psychologist or other mental health professional.


Recurring dreams
Recurring dreams are believed to indicate ongoing and persistent unresolved conflict.

Imagine your brain as a librarian and every new piece of information as a book that needs to be filed systematically and placed on a shelf in an orderly fashion. When a book comes along that doesn’t fit any of the criteria you ordinarily use to sort, you just leave it on the desk to deal with later. But until you find where it belongs, or build a new shelf to put it on, the book is just going to sit there. You might hide it for a while by placing new books on top of it, but it won’t just go away on its own. As those new books get sorted, the old book will keep finding its way back to your awareness.

When we experience trauma or conflict and our brain doesn’t know how to process it, it can temporarily place it aside for later storage. But until we make sense of it, it can continue to play over and over in our minds. Since our brain is busy coping with all sorts of everyday stressors during waking life, it uses our dream state to remind us that we still need to deal with whatever unresolved issues we’ve been avoiding.

Lucid dreams
Lucid dreams are a specific type of dream in which the dreamer is aware of the fact that they are dreaming, and so are able to exert control over the dream and manipulate the dream content.
In one interesting study, researchers proposed that it was possible for athletes to train their brain to execute specific actions by practicing them via lucid dreaming.
Many athletes use visualization to mentally practice a technique they use in their sport, based on the idea that the same neural pathways are activated when we imagine performing an action as when we actually execute it. If athletes can train themselves to practice a technique through lucid dreaming, they can expedite their mastery of a new strategy and strengthen the neural networks that will allow them to perform the action automatically in waking life.
Why you should listen to your dreams
Whether you dream of falling, being chased, being attacked, flying, or being late, dreams can tell you a lot about what may be bothering you in waking life – so it’s worth paying attention to them. With the economic burden of sleep problems currently estimated to cost the Australian economy in excess of $5 billion, we simply can’t afford to sleep poorly.
Interested in learning more about the psychology of sleep and dreams? Check out Deakin’s range of psychology courses.


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Has anyone had PTSD????

I was diagnosed with PTSD about 2 years go, mostly under control/cured sort of now
But some shocks can send me reeling still

I am not suffering from it mostly anymore, just some side effects, just about any surprise still makes me jump
And people behaving like dicks.......I have to walk away

I am a fairly resilient person, but hell it can pop up and kick you in the guts unexpected still
I cover it up in general, I am a calm work person, people would not know I can be fragile...........I am like that duck, paddling like crazy beneath, deceptively floating serenely
 
Has anyone had PTSD????

I was diagnosed with PTSD about 2 years go, mostly under control/cured sort of now
But some shocks can send me reeling still

I am not suffering from it mostly anymore, just some side effects, just about any surprise still makes me jump
And people behaving like dicks.......I have to walk away

I am a fairly resilient person, but hell it can pop up and kick you in the guts unexpected still
I cover it up in general, I am a calm work person, people would not know I can be fragile...........I am like that duck, paddling like crazy beneath, deceptively floating serenely

I do not, but have seen what people with PTSD go through and it's tough. Thinking of you. PM me if you ever want to chat
 
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Thanks @delcan, much appreciated
Something shitty happened last week and threw me a bit, but I am much better at taking care of myself now
It is/was a very weird condition
 
Some not good news about @Mr Stickyfingers . He is currently in hospital following a stroke on Sunday morning. This was his third stroke. This time it has affected his right side (previous strokes affected his left). It has also affected his speech. He can communicate but it is slow and difficult for him. Rehab starts tomorrow.
His daughter has taken his laptop to him and he says to tell you he will be online as soon as he can. I imagine that he will be reading before he is able to respond although he is tapping out some stuff with his left hand.
His daughter also has said he is very emotional,so please keep that in mind with your comments.
I have put him on my church’s prayer list and of course in my personal prayers. Please add him to your own prayers or thoughts or whatever works for you.
And @Mr Stickyfingers - behave yourself, do as your told and I’ll be in touch soon. Love and blessings!!
 
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