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Witty Banter said:
Use that magic talent of making friends easily. You're welcome :p
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Oh good morning you! Up early and gnashing I see.

I do make firm friendships easily. I am talking about the gnashing of one bitter person who dysfunctionally seeks me out at every opportunity just to try and hurt and disempower me. She finds it difficult to form healthy work relationships, and I am by no means the only person she targets. Come to think of it, she is like a reality version of you.

Like you she has tried and failed to change how others see me, but continues to unnecessarily seek me out and toxically obsess. It was a CN who observed her latest interactions with me and pointed out her behaviour was unprofessional and is in fact bullying, and advised me to follow it up with our NUM.
 
el'coopo said:
You do get that a Hospital has many, many staff, not just nurses. So for Trala to have just one personality clash amongst the masses says what a great person and amazing nurse she is. Also, the fact that the person causing her the angst only started it when she got caught out not following proper procedures, speaks volumes to me.
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Awwww thanks Coops.

Just missed your call.

Ring you in halfa. Xo
 
Witty Banter said:
Well, there is the inconvenient 'overlap' between you rocking a Miss Congeniality tiara in life and now playing the bullied victim card.
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You know what? It's not my fault you can't form real friendships.

For the record, I feel I do rock a "Miss Congeniality" life. I love my life. But that is not to say I don't have unfulfilled bitter, jealous people like you who pop up every now and then and make it your quest to sap my sparkle.

I am not a victim. I feel I am being targeted and being treated in an unfair manner in my workplace, and her behaviour can be defined in today's language as bullying. I am in the process of trying to work out how I can work with this coworker to get past it.

That is called taking control and being proactive. Being a victim is when you piss and moan, feed into the bullshit and do nothing to change it.
 
Trala said:
You know what? It's not my fault you can't form real friendships.

For the record, I feel I do rock a "Miss Congeniality" life. I love my life. But that is not to say I don't have unfulfilled bitter, jealous people like you who pop up every now and then and make it your quest to sap my sparkle.

I am not a victim. I feel I am being targeted and being treated in an unfair manner in my workplace, and her behaviour can be defined in today's language as bullying. I am in the process of trying to work out how I can work with this coworker to get past it.

That is called taking control and being proactive. Being a victim is when you piss and moan, feed into the bullshit and do nothing to change it.
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Like bleating your tears onto a forum and distributing self pity party invitations like confetti?

:p :p :p
 
Trala said:
SHUT YOUR MOUTH!!!

I fucking LOVE Millsy!

I think I even voted for him!
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jessy_girl said:
Haha ummm MAYBE! Technically I should be claiming him, it's a closer link and he is vaguely more relevant, but I try to ignore him in this chain of events!
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Trala said:
Good Moanin OT thread!!!

I am about to embark on a well deserved day off, and quite frankly I need it! I have been under some stress at work. I know the word has lost some of its power due to constantly being misused, but I think I am being bullied by a nurse at work. The reason I am thinking it is actually bullying is because her constant targeting of me actually left me crying alone in the work toilets, and that is never an appropriate response to work interactions.

It has been going on for two years and it started when she didn't report a patient falling. When a patient has an unwitnessed fall, there is a time consuming process that must be followed, and it starts with 15 min neuro obs, millions of forms and a PRIME. The patient told the AIN, and the AIN told me, and after speaking to the patient and his wife, I was left with no choice but to update the CNC to follow it up, and the grudge was born.

On Monday her nastiness towards me got to the point it made me cry with sadness, and Tuesday morning I decided enough was enough. Now I have to work out the most effective way to try and build a bridge and move forward.
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I'm sorry Mr Banter jumped on this straight away - I'm not surprised. You are so not one to cry bully so when you do use the word I know you really mean it! Is there someone you can talk to about this? Do other people receive similar treatment from her? Or witness the treatment you reserve? It really does suck having to share a workplace with someone you don't get along with, but I hope there is a solution here.
 
jessy_girl said:
I'm sorry Mr Banter jumped on this straight away - I'm not surprised. You are so not one to cry bully so when you do use the word I know you really mean it! Is there someone you can talk to about this? Do other people receive similar treatment from her? Or witness the treatment you reserve? It really does suck having to share a workplace with someone you don't get along with, but I hope there is a solution here.
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You are not surprised because she's been painting a flowery picture of workplace popularity directly concurrent with tearjerking tales of adversity and playing of the bully victim card. Of course it's unsurprising. The resident fact checker's gonna check facts. We have suspected Trala has been projecting her workplace frustrations and social disenfranchisement on others, and now we know for a fact :). She is the common toxic denominator!
 
Witty Banter said:
You are not surprised because she's been painting a flowery picture of workplace popularity directly concurrent with tearjerking tales of adversity and playing of the bully victim card. Of course it's unsurprising. The resident fact checker's gonna check facts. We have suspected Trala has been projecting her workplace frustrations and social disenfranchisement on others, and now we know for a fact :). She is the common toxic denominator!
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No, no. I'm not surprised because normally when someone expresses a particular problem people offer sympathy and support and - if they have any - advice, but you are not exactly normal, so I'm not surprised that you found it necessary to find a post that you believe contradicts what is being said. Was it your instinct to search straight away? Did you have that exact post in mind or did you search until you found something appropriate?
 
jessy_girl said:
I'm sorry Mr Banter jumped on this straight away - I'm not surprised. You are so not one to cry bully so when you do use the word I know you really mean it! Is there someone you can talk to about this? Do other people receive similar treatment from her? Or witness the treatment you reserve? It really does suck having to share a workplace with someone you don't get along with, but I hope there is a solution here.
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Oh don't be. It's all he has.

Thanks for that, yeah I know. I actually talked to my NUM about it yesterday, after much prompting from my CN, and yes, many people have had this problem with her, and yes people have witnessed the treatment I and many others have received. It really is like a reality Witty situation. And sadly she lacks the insight to see the role she plays in the constant swirl of drama she is caught up in. It is always the world against her.

I have been reflecting on it today, and I have to be aware of the role play in the dysfunction. I am thinking of approaching her and rather than listing my issues, just saying "is there a way we can put our history in a bubble, blow it away, and just start a fresh?". The big picture, she doesn't really bother me that much. I think I was just a tad overemotional, and after receiving her unnecessary aggression three days running, because she really does roar at you, I had just had enough. My biggest issue with her, she tries to get up on her high horse, but her horse isn't high. In fact her horse is like a brain dead pony with a limp. To keep it about the now, the issues she raised on the weekend where all caused because she didn't follow up/hand over correctly and read the assessments properly. But rather than checking her facts first, she does what she always does and comes steam training for you, then looks like a fucking clown because she is in the wrong, then her frustration and anger grows because she feels showed up, then she spins then repeats, spins then repeats, spins then repeats (sound familiar?). She has no basic insight.
 
jessy_girl said:
No, no. I'm not surprised because normally when someone expresses a particular problem people offer sympathy and support and - if they have any - advice, but you are not exactly normal, so I'm not surprised that you found it necessary to find a post that you believe contradicts what is being said. Was it your instinct to search straight away? Did you have that exact post in mind or did you search until you found something appropriate?
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Yes. When Trala played her bully victim trump card, my immediate thought was all the flashbacks of Trala dispensing anti victim advice herself and the tear in the logical and consistent universe continuum. We also know Trala haaaates validation pity parties like the plague, so I'm obliging her there. As for me not being 'normal', ain't plural societies grand ?! Celebrate diversity (except for Trala's backflippy hypocritical diveristy of dispensed advice versus that actually practised.)

Now, moving on...!
 
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Witty Banter said:
You are not surprised because she's been painting a flowery picture of workplace popularity directly concurrent with tearjerking tales of adversity and playing of the bully victim card. Of course it's unsurprising. The resident fact checker's gonna check facts. We have suspected Trala has been projecting her workplace frustrations and social disenfranchisement on others, and now we know for a fact :). She is the common toxic denominator!
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Ah the self proclaimed "resident fact checker". That is truly how you see yourself isn't it?

I don't see you as a "fact checker". I see you as strange man who is attracted to dysfunction, who will spend hours trying to bait by trawling through and quoting ancient posts. I actually see you as a Stage 10 Clinger. I believe this is all you have. And when all goes quiet in this particular thread, you wait till late late at night then Tourette's "OT" like a parrot in hope of a negative reply to assist you in your early morning gnash.

Oh and to clarify with you Mr Factchecker, when you talk about "we" are you actually speaking on behalf of the many people in here who know me by name and share in my reality, which actually involves seeing me interact with work friends, or are you talking about your private messages with Reepbot and Fuzz?
 
Witty Banter said:
Yes. When Trala played her bully victim trump card, my immediate thought was all the flashbacks of Trala dispensing anti victim advice herself and the tear in the logical and consistent universe continuum. We also know Trala haaaates validation pity parties like the plague, so I'm obliging her there. As for me not being 'normal', ain't plural societies grand ?! Celebrate diversity (except for Trala's backflippy hypocritical diveristy of dispensed advice versus that actually practised.)

Now, moving on...!
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CLINGER ALERT!!!!

Look at all those "Trala's"?!

:p:p:p

You will never move on in your obsession with me and this thread as long as your bitter arseshole points to the ground. You prove it on a daily basis.
 
Trala said:
Oh don't be. It's all he has.

Thanks for that, yeah I know. I actually talked to my NUM about it yesterday, after much prompting from my CN, and yes, many people have had this problem with her, and yes people have witnessed the treatment I and many others have received. It really is like a reality Witty situation. And sadly she lacks the insight to see the role she plays in the constant swirl of drama she is caught up in. It is always the world against her.

I have been reflecting on it today, and I have to be aware of the role play in the dysfunction. I am thinking of approaching her and rather than listing my issues, just saying "is there a way we can put our history in a bubble, blow it away, and just start a fresh?". The big picture, she doesn't really bother me that much. I think I was just a tad overemotional, and after receiving her unnecessary aggression three days running, because she really does roar at you, I had just had enough. My biggest issue with her, she tries to get up on her high horse, but her horse isn't high. In fact her horse is like a brain dead pony with a limp. To keep it about the now, the issues she raised on the weekend where all caused because she didn't follow up/hand over correctly and read the assessments properly. But rather than checking her facts first, she does what she always does and comes steam training for you, then looks like a fucking clown because she is in the wrong, then her frustration and anger grows because she feels showed up, then she spins then repeats, spins then repeats, spins then repeats (sound familiar?). She has no basic insight.
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It is difficult working with people like that, I think if they can move on too that's great, but from your description of this other person, they might find it difficult to move on. We all come across lots of personalities in the work force, and for some reason their are loads of them in Nursing! It is good that you are wanting to resolve it, and it must be awful for you to have to deal with it on a day to day.
 
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