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kxk said:
Don't get nervous, get excited...do you get nervous before your speech making?

Reframe Nervousness As Excitement Before You Give A Big Speech
(etc, meet new people, dance, whatever)

There are a lot of great ways to calm your nerves before you step into the spotlight, but it might also help to refashion what you’re feeling instead of trying to suppress it.

A recent study, led by Alison Wood Brooks at Harvard Business School, and published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology, suggests that a simple shift in mindset can help you use your own nerves to your advantage. In the study, participants who announced that they were excited, not nervous, were perceived as more persuasive and competent during their speeches. The researchers explain that nervousness and excitement are both high states of arousal, so you can manipulate your mind-body connection to make what you’re feeling seem positive. Basically, your mind is tricking your body by switching the circuits. By verbally acknowledging your feelings as excitement, you can harness that nervous energy instead of fighting against it. You’re not shaking because you’re anxious, you’re shaking because you can’t wait to say what you have to say.

Get Excited: Reappraising Pre-Performance Anxiety as Excitement [Journal of Experimental Psychology via Inc.]
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I was nervous. But not overwhelmingly so.
 
kxk said:
Don't get nervous, get excited...do you get nervous before your speech making?

Reframe Nervousness As Excitement Before You Give A Big Speech
(etc, meet new people, dance, whatever)

There are a lot of great ways to calm your nerves before you step into the spotlight, but it might also help to refashion what you’re feeling instead of trying to suppress it.

A recent study, led by Alison Wood Brooks at Harvard Business School, and published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology, suggests that a simple shift in mindset can help you use your own nerves to your advantage. In the study, participants who announced that they were excited, not nervous, were perceived as more persuasive and competent during their speeches. The researchers explain that nervousness and excitement are both high states of arousal, so you can manipulate your mind-body connection to make what you’re feeling seem positive. Basically, your mind is tricking your body by switching the circuits. By verbally acknowledging your feelings as excitement, you can harness that nervous energy instead of fighting against it. You’re not shaking because you’re anxious, you’re shaking because you can’t wait to say what you have to say.

Get Excited: Reappraising Pre-Performance Anxiety as Excitement [Journal of Experimental Psychology via Inc.]
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Does that also apply to talking to park lady?
 
reepbot said:
I wouldn't mind though. As long as they didn't denigrate or mock.
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yip it is one of my pet peeves - Even people who's music I don't like, I try to understand someone else appreciating that music. Sometimes I don't get it, but I do try!
 
It is hard, I try to avoid music with people that have tastes I cannot admire. You can't knock what appeals to somebody else, that's their personality sort of you are attacking.

Be sweet @reepbot consider taking a flower, it melts hearts. Ask nicely about her interests. Lots of males just go on and on about themselves.
I have been told by psychologists that trait is male peacocking and means you are interested and trying to impress, but it gets boring and feels like you are all about you.
Do what you do here, you are a quirky interesting chatter.
 
kxk said:
It is hard, I try to avoid music with people that have tastes I cannot admire. You can't knock what appeals to somebody else, that's their personality sort of you are attacking.

Be sweet @reepbot consider taking a flower, it melts hearts. Ask nicely about her interests. Lots of males just go on and on about themselves.
I have been told by psychologists that trait is male peacocking and means you are interested and trying to impress, but it gets boring and feels like you are all about you.
Do what you do here, you are a quirky interesting chatter.
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I do take a long time to open up in real life.
 
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Remember you are chatting to plenty of women on here that age or older too.
Have a backup of topics you can chat about, don't swamp her with just Tina.

Oh and if you are awkward , make sure you are familiar with where you are meeting, and where you can suggest you go for a coffee or whatever.Plan, like you do toastmasters, or not you don't have to listen to me just suggestions, good luck should be good for you:)
 
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