He wasn't friend zoned there. Friendliness from
@reepbot, yes. The other side, no.
Ok, now on to my friendship feelings.
I think you are half way right there delcan. Yes, I wasn't friendzoned. No, Inigo was friendly towards me when we were friends for that brief period of time.
As far as I understand it the 'term' friendzoned is to do with some bitter loser whining that this other person doesn't want to date them and that it is really unfair because they were just soooooooooo nice to them. They feel that being a friend to them is a second prize or some fucking weird shit like that. They may also throw phrases around such as 'mixed signals' but that is bullshit i think. People change their minds all the time. There is no obligation for a relationship just because you woke up this morning and decided to be human today. However I never ever felt any friend zoning or anything like that from inigo. To me i would rather much be her friend than anything romantic at the moment. Why? Because looking back i think my friendship feelings for her were way stronger than my romantic feelings. I do wonder if i didn't have any romantic feelings towards her if my friendship with her would still be intact.
Inigo has been friendly towards me before. I know that is not the case now but to be honest i don't really expect anything different from her at the moment. We are not friends anymore. In the past when we were friends she was very kind, caring and encouraging to me. Inigo, just by being inigo, made me want to be totally honest with her. I wanted to tell her everything. Maybe a little too much of anything though. Anyway my point is that in my lifetime any friends that i have had have been rare and fleeting. Mainly thrust together due to school and stuff. Then after school i had no friends at all. I became a recluse. Finding company with murder she wrote episodes and a bottomless bag of potato chips and lollies. Getting fat and feeling like i wanted and deserved to feel like a worthless piece of garbage. All alone. I was even more pathetic back then than i am now. Inigo i think came at the right time for me. Like i have said before, my friendships in the past were shallow and meaningless. But with Inigo it was different. I felt a real connection or spark with her (well as real a connection that you can get on an internet forum.). Some may say that what i felt wasn't really real. But is it fair to invalidate people's online feelings though? To me that comes across as very patronizing. I know what i felt. I will never deny that to appease any weird forum revisionism. Anyway my point is that even though my friendship with inigo was brief it was still strong enough (well at least on my side) to slowly encourage me to try and spread my wings so to speak. I don't know how she did it, but she made me care.
However times do change and I have made stronger friends such as you delcan,
@Isee, @Moosseface,
@Bluefin,
@Fuzz , and
@Sweetgeek. Apologies if i missed anyone.
Plus i am also trying to make soome real life friends by joining these clubs. They may work out, they may not. But i never know if i don't at least give it a try. Who knows, i might even become friends with park lady? That would be cool.
It's an all too real factuality.
