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JordanS said:
I don't feel this is relevant to the argument that is presented. You can't assume that a highly physically attractive person is the worst person out for relationships. It is a generalization which is not true.
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I didn't say that, I don't know where you are reading these things in what I am saying?
 
mutleyp said:
I didn't say that, I don't know where you are reading these things in what I am saying?
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@iJake presented the view that you all believe that "going on looks alone leads to disappointment", which is where I am going with this.
That's where I am reading these things. Thus, I brought up this comment as you asked my longest relationship as to try and say I have no idea what I am talking about.
 
JordanS said:
That is a pretty big assumption, isn't it? You are basically assuming that every case is the same as one another. A person with high physical attractiveness could be the most absolutely gem that you ever meet. It is not right to say that it would lead to disappointment when they could be the most lovely person out there.

Also, it says this: "This last statement brings up an important factor in how we determine our friends and partner. Ever wonder why very attractive people tend to ‘hang around’ other very attractive people?........ There is some truth to these stereotypical scenarios because we tend to assign “social assets” or “attraction points” to everyone we meet." This goes a bit against what you are saying.
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So, first you say that you're not going to bother with people that don't meet a strict physical criteria and that their personality isn't and shouldn't be a factor, and now you're saying that personality is a factor? I've not assumed anything here, nor have I said that someone that meets a strict physical criteria can't be a gem. I'm just saying that it's a lot more difficult in the long run to find love in a relationship sense and that it's harmful to base everything solely on looks, which is what you've been saying up until this point. I do know that each case is different. You're the one who has been throwing blanket statements all over the place.

And that quote actually doesn't go against anything I've said. I've not once said physical attraction isn't a factor.
 
JordanS said:
@iJake presented the view that you all believe that "going on looks alone leads to disappointment", which is where I am going with this.
That's where I am reading these things. Thus, I brought up this comment as you asked my longest relationship as to try and say I have no idea what I am talking about.
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The truth of the matter is though, if you haven't been in a relationship, and perhaps even multiple relationships of different levels and circumstances, you really don't know what you're talking about. You can have your own ideas of how things work, but until you've put them into practice, you genuinely don't know. And that goes for literally everything else in this world.

And I stand by the fact that going on looks alone leads to disappointment, but that doesn't automatically mean that going on looks to some degree is a bad thing. You're jumping to conclusions and cherry picking.
 
iJake said:
So, first you say that you're not going to bother with people that don't meet a strict physical criteria and that their personality isn't and shouldn't be a factor, and now you're saying that personality is a factor? I've not assumed anything here, nor have I said that someone that meets a strict physical criteria can't be a gem. I'm just saying that it's a lot more difficult in the long run to find love in a relationship sense and that it's harmful to base everything solely on looks, which is what you've been saying up until this point. I do know that each case is different. You're the one who has been throwing blanket statements all over the place.

And that quote actually doesn't go against anything I've said. I've not once said physical attraction isn't a factor.
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(1) I never said that, I said that looks is more important than personality. Go read back and find me one instance where I said personality is not a factor.

(2) Oh yes you did say that people who can't meet a strict physical criteria can't be a gem. You mentioned that it leads to disappointment.

(3) Contradiction on your statement before about physical attraction. Have another read of it.


I love it how you all throw comments about this issue out and when I call you all out about it, deny it completely.

This argument is going in circles and I know I am in the right.
 
iJake said:
The truth of the matter is though, if you haven't been in a relationship, and perhaps even multiple relationships of different levels and circumstances, you really don't know what you're talking about. You can have your own ideas of how things work, but until you've put them into practice, you genuinely don't know. And that goes for literally everything else in this world.

And I stand by the fact that going on looks alone leads to disappointment, but that doesn't automatically mean that going on looks to some degree is a bad thing. You're jumping to conclusions and cherry picking.
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I think you are jumping to conclusions and cherry picking.
 
JordanS said:
(1) I never said that, I said that looks is more important than personality. Go read back and find me one instance where I said personality is not a factor.

(2) Oh yes you did say that people who can't meet a strict physical criteria can't be a gem. You mentioned that it leads to disappointment.

(3) Contradiction on your statement before about physical attraction. Have another read of it.


I love it how you all throw comments about this issue out and when I call you all out about it, deny it completely.

This argument is going in circles and I know I am in the right.
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It is going in circles, I'll say what I said before, I wish you luck in your search :)
 
JordanS said:
@iJake presented the view that you all believe that "going on looks alone leads to disappointment", which is where I am going with this.
That's where I am reading these things. Thus, I brought up this comment as you asked my longest relationship as to try and say I have no idea what I am talking about.
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OK per the above in black and white....Can lead to.... rather than "does". I didn't know liking that comment was like singing off a witness statement. However the general gist of the ensuing discussion is basically about the degree of weight placed on looks, which at the end of the day, is very personal choice. Many comments are driven by real life experience rather than the text book. It's OK to have ideals, and the time to pursue them. If it turns out to be a winning strategy, even better.
 
mutleyp said:
It is going in circles, I'll say what I said before, I wish you luck in your search :)
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I'm done with this discussion. :P

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@JordanS, you're the one who's moving the argument around in circles. I'm not contradicting myself in the slightest. I'll say it again: going on looks alone—as in, not factoring in anything else at all—leads to disappointment, but that doesn't automatically mean that going on looks to some degree is a bad thing, because it isn't. That's literally all I've said this entire time, and that's all I'm going to say on this topic because at the end of the day, it's not my job to help you find love... or as it appears, lust.
 
iJake said:
@JordanS, you're the one who's moving the argument around in circles. I'm not contradicting myself in the slightest. I'll say it again: going on looks alone—as in, not factoring in anything else at all—leads to disappointment, but that doesn't automatically mean that going on looks to some degree is a bad thing, because it isn't. That's literally all I've said this entire time, and that's all I'm going to say on this topic because at the end of the day, it's not my job to help you find love... or as it appears, lust.
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Fuck. Find a way for everyone to win. It's a forum that we all enjoy otherwise we wouldn't be here. I'd like some red velvet ones please.
 
Love fascinates me because I know nothing about it. But because I have trouble recognising my own emotions I don't think I will ever know if I have truly felt or be able feel love towards anybody else. There may be times when I may think I do feel love, but I know nothing about love so I would be wrong and it could just be limerance or lust.
 
reepbot said:
Love fascinates me because I know nothing about it. But because I have trouble recognising my own emotions I don't think I will ever know if I have truly felt or be able feel love towards anybody else. There may be times when I may think I do feel love, but I know nothing about love so I would be wrong and it could just be limerance or lust.
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Wow, the instigator in it all finally comments.
 
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