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qtkt said:
@MADONNA I'm devastated. Everyone knows the star of the wedding is the celebrant. WHERE AM I ?
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I guess we'll be the only ones in attendance then!
 
Illabeth said:
I wish I could be more open with my parents, but even since I was a teenager I've never really talked about anything with them, I just don't feel comfortable. They weren't around much when I was little, always working and I don't know, I love them dearly but I'm just so scared that they won't accept it, or think I'm lying or mock me. I think that the biggest fear is that they won't think bisexuality is a real thing, and brush it aside or worse. I kinda tested the waters with my uncle by joking about marrying a girl and he was like "you know what I think about them" and I honestly nearly dies inside, he is my favourite Uncle, more like a dad to me and I love him to pieces and my heart kinda shattered that day because I have no idea what will happen if I do end up marrying a girl, it was even worse 'cause I never got the vibe that he was anything less than completely okay with it the idea of it all. All my close friends know, and I've told one of my cousins that I'm very close to (the other live overseas or are really too young) and my sister knows, but not my parents. I know one day I'll be able to tell them, I'm just not ready yet for some of the possible scenarios if they do end up playing out.

The whole situation has certainly affected how I will parent my own children, for sure.
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Stay strong Illabeth. Love is a very strong bond and as father D said It's ridiculous that anyone should have to feel that their self worth should be defined by sexuality. :)[DOUBLEPOST=1411453105][/DOUBLEPOST]
Illabeth said:
I wish I could be more open with my parents, but even since I was a teenager I've never really talked about anything with them, I just don't feel comfortable. They weren't around much when I was little, always working and I don't know, I love them dearly but I'm just so scared that they won't accept it, or think I'm lying or mock me. I think that the biggest fear is that they won't think bisexuality is a real thing, and brush it aside or worse. I kinda tested the waters with my uncle by joking about marrying a girl and he was like "you know what I think about them" and I honestly nearly dies inside, he is my favourite Uncle, more like a dad to me and I love him to pieces and my heart kinda shattered that day because I have no idea what will happen if I do end up marrying a girl, it was even worse 'cause I never got the vibe that he was anything less than completely okay with it the idea of it all. All my close friends know, and I've told one of my cousins that I'm very close to (the other live overseas or are really too young) and my sister knows, but not my parents. I know one day I'll be able to tell them, I'm just not ready yet for some of the possible scenarios if they do end up playing out.

The whole situation has certainly affected how I will parent my own children, for sure.
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Stay strong Illabeth. Love is a very strong bond and as father D said It's ridiculous that anyone should have to feel that their self worth should be defined by sexuality. :)
 
qtkt said:
See, this breaks my heart. I dream of a day when people can just bring a new beau home and gender isn't even an issue to consider. You'd be more worried that your parents wouldn't like the way she eats with her mouth full or something stupid like that. I pray for a day when no-one has to come out because sexual orientation just doesn't bloody matter. I'm a mum but it hasn't been an issue with my boys as they're both straight. However they know my views and they used to bring their gay mates to me support when they were contemplating coming out to their parents. I don't have much of a "gaydar" (cause I reckon the only valid reason for it to be any of your bloody business is if you are keen on them or them on you - so I don't need to know 'cause I'm off the market) but having said that - as a priest- I have watched people sizing me up to see if they can trust me and building themselves up to coming out to me. I try to make it as easy for them as I can but it makes my blood boil that the problem even exists.
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I'm a mum to to a 20 year old and I have always made it known to him that I'm good with whoever he brings home, girl or guy. As a parent, I couldn't imagine not supporting my son, either way. Well said!
 
MADONNA said:
That is totally @Trala

@Consuela needs to bring ha glasses

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@Lucas providing entertainment at the reception

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@the Theorist and date

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@Miiiiike enjoying the festivities

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I had fun too

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bonus @el'coopo , @penelopepitstop and @jessy_girl

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I look like Lara bingle on acid!

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mutleyp said:
With my tanned pins![DOUBLEPOST=1411453553][/DOUBLEPOST]Stunnin

stunning colour!
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Hey there cabana man!
 
Illabeth said:
I wish I could be more open with my parents, but even since I was a teenager I've never really talked about anything with them, I just don't feel comfortable. They weren't around much when I was little, always working and I don't know, I love them dearly but I'm just so scared that they won't accept it, or think I'm lying or mock me. I think that the biggest fear is that they won't think bisexuality is a real thing, and brush it aside or worse. I kinda tested the waters with my uncle by joking about marrying a girl and he was like "you know what I think about them" and I honestly nearly died inside. He is my favourite Uncle, more like a dad to me and I love him to pieces and my heart kinda shattered that day because I have no idea what will happen if I do end up marrying a girl. It was even worse 'cause I never got the vibe that he was anything less than completely okay with it the idea of it all. All my close friends know, and I've told one of my cousins that I'm very close to (the other live overseas or are really too young) and my sister knows, but not my parents. I know one day I'll be able to tell them, I'm just not ready yet for some of the possible scenarios if they do end up playing out.

The whole situation has certainly affected how I will parent my own children, for sure.
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ooh :( this just breaks my heart. I mean I couldn't even have the period talk with my mum, I really don't know how I would have gone if I were bi. I'd like to think that they would love me regardless, and I really do hope your parents love & support you. Your Uncle needs to wake up & get with the 21st century! At the end of the day the important things are health & happiness, all of your other life choices are just that, your choice. Mr C couldn't even watch Will & Grace cos of the "gays" but, he has grown some, become a dad, and I know he will love & support our kids no matter what their choices are (again, just as long as they are happy & healthy, I won't be supporting a smooching unappreciative bum! :P)
 
penelopepitstop said:
Stay strong Illabeth. Love is a very strong bond and as father D said It's ridiculous that anyone should have to feel that their self worth should be defined by sexuality. :)
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Thank-you. It's such a hard one, my sexuality is an integral part of who I am, my identity, but it is not ALL I am and it really does make me sad that it's all some people can see when they find out, like the person I was before has suddenly disappeared behind a brick wall of sexuality.

qtkt said:
Aww bless you @Illabeth. Can I ask how old you are?
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I'm 24 :)
 
Sorry to be a bit of a debbie downer...and on such a nice day too. But it is so nice to have such a great bunch of people I can come and chat to and get support from, sometimes it's easier sharing things here than it is with even my closest friends. I swear it's like some form of weird internet forum psychologist.
 
Illabeth said:
Sorry to be a bit of a debbie downer...and on such a nice day too. But it is so nice to have such a great bunch of people I can come and chat to and get support from, sometimes it's easier sharing things here than it is with even my closest friends. I swear it's like some form of weird internet forum psychologist.
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Don't you dare apologise! It is sooo much easier to be yourself with strangers then with those you know. Your sharing has helped me be a better parent :)
 
Illabeth said:
I'm 24 :)
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Just a little younger than my youngest. So, your uncle and parents are unlikely to be geriatrics. You may find that they (particularly your uncle) have one attitude when thinking about an abstract situation and a completely different one when they realize it's a situation someone they love is in. We often find our opinions about something change when we are faced with reality rather than theory.
 
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