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Tressyjo

Tressyjo

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I live in a part of the States where Anglos are approximately 2% of the population and have seen my daughters bullied because they are different. Called names because of the Color of their skin and hair even on facebook by their teammates..kids with whom they spend a tremendous number of hours with outside of school. They aren't being picked on for personality traits but for something they have absolutely no control over. We have gone to bat repeatedly to have it stopped with some success. Ostracism is a painful thing for anyone to go through and I feel badly for Estelle if she has truly gone through this in the house. That being said the only real bullying I have seen or read about on OS have been by Zoe towards her. To the point today Michael told her to pipe down. I wish Zoe would have left last night because her behavior has gone from catty to bully. The other housemates have been bitchy and catty but not bullies and in the last week we have seen the difference between the two.
 
Completely agree with you. I'm sorry about your daughters. I hope things get better soon.
 
This might have been a valid thread if you hadn't started the whole thing off by telling a story about how your white kids are being bullied for being white that has almost no relation or relevance to the rest of your discussion.
 
Estelle has been asked if she is being bullied & her answer was NO.
 
alien-she said:
This might have been a valid thread if you hadn't started the whole thing off by telling a story about how your white kids are being bullied for being white that has almost no relation or relevance to the rest of your discussion.
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They wanted to tell us their SOB story & we don't care.
 
No, I was seriously attempting to illustrate that I had a real life experience with bullying and therefore could make a distinction. I'm not asking anyone to feel sorry for my kids, no matter what they are being bullied for, note that I said that we have gone to bat for them with some success my kids will be fine because we will continue to be their parents and advocate for them and help them deal with what goes on. My kids,while different where we live, have plenty of advantages and don't need anyones pity.
 
I really do not get the "bully" factor at all. I have watched every season of BBUS, most of BBUK, and parts of BBAU until this season where I have watched every episode. In each of the seasons for all of the respective BB's you will have a few who exhibit negativity and bitchiness, etc. That is normal living 24/7. Strong personalities usually who also convert some who may not really be that way in normal situations. Only a few like Estelle hold tight throughout the game. Most crash and burn after awhile. In rare cases they do win even though they are not the most entertaining, but just for the likability factor and not game play.

Yes, at times it has been over the top here, but I just don't see the bully moniker as it is a game and before going in they should be ready for whatever is thrown at them.
 
Tressyjo said:
I live in a part of the States where Anglos are approximately 2% of the population and have seen my daughters bullied because they are different. Called names because of the Color of their skin and hair even on facebook by their teammates..kids with whom they spend a tremendous number of hours with outside of school. They aren't being picked on for personality traits but for something they have absolutely no control over. We have gone to bat repeatedly to have it stopped with some success. Ostracism is a painful thing for anyone to go through and I feel badly for Estelle if she has truly gone through this in the house. That being said the only real bullying I have seen or read about on OS have been by Zoe towards her. To the point today Michael told her to pipe down. I wish Zoe would have left last night because her behavior has gone from catty to bully. The other housemates have been bitchy and catty but not bullies and in the last week we have seen the difference between the two.
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You have to be fucking kidding me?

You have made adults behaving the way adults behave ie sometimes nice/sometimes nasty, all about you and your sad tale of victimisation.

If only we as a society spent even one quarter of our time empowering our children, as we do lulling in their victimised glory, we would have a more functional community.
 
alien-she said:
This might have been a valid thread if you hadn't started the whole thing off by telling a story about how your white kids are being bullied for being white that has almost no relation or relevance to the rest of your discussion.
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Seemed clear to me. Their kids are being bullied for being different just like Estelle was/is and they empathize with her plight.

You realize that being white does not prevent you from being in the minority nor being the target of prejudice?
 
marksman said:
Seemed clear to me. Their kids are being bullied for being different just like Estelle was/is and they empathize with her plight.

You realize that being white does not prevent you from being in the minority nor being the target of prejudice?
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Oh stop it.

Honestly, I think some of you in here wouldn't know bullying if it jumped up punched you in the throat then gave you a wedgie till your arse bled.
 
Once again I was seriously attempting to illustrate that I could distinguish between bullying and catty,bitchy behavior because I have seen bullying first hand. I used a personal reference to do so. I then stated that I felt for Estelle if she had been truly ostricized by the group, BUT the only instance I had seen of bullying had been Zoe of late. A few of you choose to single out the personal illustration and attack me. Fine [MENTION=30612]TraLa[/MENTION] and [MENTION=2153]Kaz[/MENTION] would clearly know bullying if it bit them in the arss because they are masters at the art of bullying it seems and take great pride in it. Takes one to know one as they say.
 
Tressyjo said:
Once again I was seriously attempting to illustrate that I could distinguish between bullying and catty,bitchy behavior because I have seen bullying first hand. I used a personal reference to do so. I then stated that I felt for Estelle if she had been truly ostricized by the group, BUT the only instance I had seen of bullying had been Zoe of late. A few of you choose to single out the personal illustration and attack me. Fine [MENTION=30612]TraLa[/MENTION] and [MENTION=2153]Kaz[/MENTION] would clearly know bullying if it bit them in the arss because they are masters at the art of bullying it seems and take great pride in it. Takes one to know one as they say.
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I love the way you turn a debate into an "attack" and morph yourself straight into the victim.

Just keep in mind, it is your role to empower your children, not to teach them to be victims.

And the fact you chose to close your argument with an attempt to insult me with the "bully" accusation and the "takes one to know one" line, is really quite sad. Your children will follow and emulate the example you set.
 
Really, how many bullying threads do we need? Christ on a bike with a basket and a bell. :rolleyes:
 
There are many forms of bullying. The type the housemates are engaging in is the most common among adults in the workplace as you wouldn't expect physical bullying found in high/primary schools to be tolerated there would you?

This article touches that aspect of bullying:

http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/the-war-at-work-20121030-28hcy.html

A couple of quotes from the article:

It wasn't just the office dressing-downs, which became a frequent event, but the sideshow of unfounded set-ups: being given a day off, only to be reprimanded for not turning up, questioned over expenses and annual leave, copping a litany of accusations of being late (five minutes), being unfocused (funny that) and making personal calls at work (on Christmas Day). And my new colleagues kept their distance, no doubt feeling it was too risky to be associated with the bully's latest target.

Read more: http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/the-war-at-work-20121030-28hcy.html#ixzz2BIFt8QEH
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According to research, there is no such thing as a classic "bully target". Strong, capable and cordial does not make you immune. A friend who is all of that was bullied by two co-workers in what she says was a concerted attack. "From the moment I started, it was clear they were ganging up. They refused to speak to me, turned their back on me. I felt like a 12-year-old in the playground."

Read more: http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/the-war-at-work-20121030-28hcy.html#ixzz2BIFcunxG
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TraLa said:
I love the way you turn a debate into an "attack" and morph yourself straight into the victim.

Just keep in mind, it is your role to empower your children, not to teach them to be victims.

And the fact you chose to close your argument with an attempt to insult me with the "bully" accusation and the "takes one to know one" line, is really quite sad. Your children will follow and emulate the example you set.
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I am not a victim, what you wrote and continue to write are attacks and yes bullish in nature. Because I stood up to you, you wish to lable me a victim, and imply that I am raising victims. I don't need to insult you, you are correct and I apologies. May our own actions speak for themselves.
 
Tressyjo said:
I am not a victim, what you wrote and continue to write are attacks and yes bullish in nature. Because I stood up to you, you wish to lable me a victim, and imply that I am raising victims. I don't need to insult you, you are correct and I apologies. May our own actions speak for themselves.
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Can you show me exactly where I have attacked you please?
 
TraLa said:
You have to be fucking kidding me?

You have made adults behaving the way adults behave ie sometimes nice/sometimes nasty, all about you and your sad tale of victimisation.

If only we as a society spent even one quarter of our time empowering our children, as we do lulling in their victimised glory, we would have a more functional community.
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Here you take my example of real world bullying and call me a victim,you also attempt to call my parenting abilities into question. Those are attacks. Furthermore you repeated the same in your next post as though I morphed myself into a victim yet again and again indirectly implied something about my parental abilities.
 
CaspersMum said:
Really, how many bullying threads do we need? Christ on a bike with a basket and a bell. :rolleyes:
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The two buzzwords of Behind Big Brother Forums this year "Aspies" and "Bullying" oh and Fecking

Wikipedia has a lot to answer for.
There was no one with Aspergers and there is no Bullying.

TraLA - you are the single greatest poster I have seen on any forum, funny as fuck and very smart. I shall miss you xx
 
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