anthonydrewsblueblueeyes
Active Member
I ALWAYS learn that I should be kinder in how I deal with and interpret other people - and that I may gradually forget that till halfway through the following year's season...!!! (BB is bad for most, but important life nutrients for me..)
Also - again, every season - but that you can have a general, quite sure, dislike for someone at the start, and then wtf find you really were / are too hasty with initial impressions...
I LOVE that changing opinion, that moment when you realise well after it's happened that you actually totally changed your opinion on someone, through learning about / seeing them in all their best and worst moments, and the way they handle them.
Trav seemed totally the antithesis of me at the start, and it turns out despite his obvious dimness, he's really quite a lovely, KIND, all-inclusive, thoughtful person.. That's actually pretty impressive, for someone who appeared at first glance like a stereotypical boofhead, who would - I kinda assumed - be casually racist, homophobic, and insensitive in a bad way.. (he can be insensitive, but he means well) It made me take notice when Jason came out and said something similar - and gradually following that we've seen his (Trav's) slightly mad lack of inhibitions in his affectionate love-ins.. his reactions to others' problems - kind and thoughtful again.. His reactions to others' good luck - happy for them without having an instant of jealousy or resentment. That I can get on board with..! (or should!)
I also wrote off Ryan at a certain point, and nothing could change that.. but the longer it's gone, I've seen he's actually not a bad guy, and quite genuine and thoughtful and well-meaning...
I also see each season people I expect I'll love, that lose it when things go down for them. Like nice - but adversity shows a bad side. And then I realise what a bad look that is, and that that's how I look sometimes when I get grumpy or woe-is-me... Sandra and others...
It's not just about how great you are when things are going well - it's how you take it when you're heavily nommed.! Or after a fight..
But all-up who you are actually is the combo of all our good and bad - and nothing- moments. For me what I learn - is that just because I'm GREAT, at times, and peeps say it (then); that when I'm tired or grumpy or bitchy - well that counts as well. I gotta stop handing in a note for my bad moments. That wasn't 'wasn't me' - that WAS (a part of) me..! You are not 'who you are' at your best; the job isn't done; you are who you are when all your best and worst and in-between is weighed up.
That's what makes BB a special thing. We see people in all their moments beyond what they want us to see!
Also - again, every season - but that you can have a general, quite sure, dislike for someone at the start, and then wtf find you really were / are too hasty with initial impressions...
I LOVE that changing opinion, that moment when you realise well after it's happened that you actually totally changed your opinion on someone, through learning about / seeing them in all their best and worst moments, and the way they handle them.
Trav seemed totally the antithesis of me at the start, and it turns out despite his obvious dimness, he's really quite a lovely, KIND, all-inclusive, thoughtful person.. That's actually pretty impressive, for someone who appeared at first glance like a stereotypical boofhead, who would - I kinda assumed - be casually racist, homophobic, and insensitive in a bad way.. (he can be insensitive, but he means well) It made me take notice when Jason came out and said something similar - and gradually following that we've seen his (Trav's) slightly mad lack of inhibitions in his affectionate love-ins.. his reactions to others' problems - kind and thoughtful again.. His reactions to others' good luck - happy for them without having an instant of jealousy or resentment. That I can get on board with..! (or should!)
I also wrote off Ryan at a certain point, and nothing could change that.. but the longer it's gone, I've seen he's actually not a bad guy, and quite genuine and thoughtful and well-meaning...
I also see each season people I expect I'll love, that lose it when things go down for them. Like nice - but adversity shows a bad side. And then I realise what a bad look that is, and that that's how I look sometimes when I get grumpy or woe-is-me... Sandra and others...
It's not just about how great you are when things are going well - it's how you take it when you're heavily nommed.! Or after a fight..
But all-up who you are actually is the combo of all our good and bad - and nothing- moments. For me what I learn - is that just because I'm GREAT, at times, and peeps say it (then); that when I'm tired or grumpy or bitchy - well that counts as well. I gotta stop handing in a note for my bad moments. That wasn't 'wasn't me' - that WAS (a part of) me..! You are not 'who you are' at your best; the job isn't done; you are who you are when all your best and worst and in-between is weighed up.
That's what makes BB a special thing. We see people in all their moments beyond what they want us to see!