What would reepbot say?

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I think I would use the phrase you need to know yourself before you can love someone else. This doesn't mean a relationship won't shape you and allow you to grow in another way, but you do need to know who you are fundamentally and what you will and won't give and accept in a relationship.
 
Isee said:
I think I would use the phrase you need to know yourself before you can love someone else. This doesn't mean a relationship won't shape you and allow you to grow in another way, but you do need to know who you are fundamentally and what you will and won't give and accept in a relationship.
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Ok. About 50 more buzzfeed quizzes should do the trick then. :p
 
Hmmm. OK. I think it refers to the relationship with self. Being whole, happy. How you value, look after, treat yourself as an individual etc. The notion of being your own best friend in sense. For two people in the optimal context of self, it's less likely to be love masqueraded by other things...per Mooseface's comment.
 
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Bluefin said:
Hmmm. OK. I think it refers to the relationship with self. Being whole, happy. How you value, look after, treat yourself as an individual etc. The notion of being your own best friend in sense. For two people in the optimal context of self, it's less likely to be love masquerading as other things...per Mooseface's comment.
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well clearly i am not happy. and the question is why? and i shall have to think about that.
 
reepbot said:
Ok. About 50 more buzzfeed quizzes should do the trick then. :p
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Are these quizzes helping you to think you would happy in a relationship if the dynamic was like you and IM? Or do you see a relationship you want to be in different to that?
 
Isee said:
Are these quizzes helping you to think you would happy in a relationship if the dynamic was like you and IM? Or do you see a relationship you want to be in different to that?
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you mean the dynamic between me and inigo as it is now or as it was before?
 
Though i have really posted more individual quizzes from buzzfeed so it would be hard to say. if you mean as it was before @Isee than i would have to say yes.
 
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Is there a difference? If so maybe look at both as a starting place on what works for you and what doesn't
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Well the dynamic now is definetly sour and bitter. and tragic. very tragic.

the dynamic i felt as friends was of course much more positive and free flowing. it made me feel happy.

what would work for me i think is someone who is honest, can accept that i can be weird sometimes, encourages my dreams, likes to argue, and who is passionate. I always think the worst word in the english language is 'meh'.

what wouldn't work for me is someone who is ignorant and proud of it, bigoted, crushes my dreams with a withering sentence, blindly insults yet runs away when called up on it, and who doesn't really care about anything.
 
reepbot said:
Well the dynamic now is definetly sour and bitter. and tragic. very tragic.

the dynamic i felt as friends was of course much more positive and free flowing. it made me feel happy.

what would work for me i think is someone who is honest, can accept that i can be weird sometimes, encourages my dreams, likes to argue, and who is passionate. I always think the worst word in the english language is 'meh'.

what wouldn't work for me is someone who is ignorant and proud of it, bigoted, crushes my dreams with a withering sentence, blindly insults yet runs away when called up on it, and who doesn't really care about anything.
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Is it important to you that a person still makes you feel the same way after the first flush of romance/lust/love dies down?

Knowing that IM of now is not someone who makes you feel the way you want to feel, why keep holding onto an unhealthy relationship? From what I have witnessed IM is not providing you with the things that will work in a healthy relationship for you, so she should not be what you are holding all other potential relationships up to.
 
Isee said:
Is it important to you that a person still makes you feel the same way after the first flush of romance/lust/love dies down?

Knowing that IM of now is not someone who makes you feel the way you want to feel, why keep holding onto an unhealthy relationship? From what I have witnessed IM is not providing you with the things that will work in a healthy relationship for you, so she should not be what you are holding all other potential relationships up to.
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i'm not sure for your first question. sorry. i do think feelings can change though, i know mine do, and that applies to any relationship i have in my life.

partly because i believe people can change, part laziness on my part, part stubborness, part sense of fair play, part attraction on my part, plus plenty of other reasons.
 
reepbot said:
i'm not sure for your first question. sorry. i do think feelings can change though, i know mine do, and that applies to any relationship i have in my life.

partly because i believe people can change, part laziness on my part, part stubborness, part sense of fair play, part attraction on my part, plus plenty of other reasons.
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So coming back to your question earlier about loving yourself, I think you need to look at what you have just said. To be to be in a healthy, happy relationship you need to respect yourself enough to want what will make you happy, not stay with putting up with less than happy because you are too lazy or stubborn to change it.

Thats how I see it anyway.
 
Isee said:
So coming back to your question earlier about loving yourself, I think you need to look at what you have just said. To be to be in a healthy, happy relationship you need to respect yourself enough to want what will make you happy, not stay with putting up with less than happy because you are too lazy or stubborn to change it.

Thats how I see it anyway.
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Or not hold onto something that has been lost?
 
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