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Your thoughts may or may not be romantic that does not really matter. The reality is you are unable to move yourself past a non existent friendship that is not and never will be a friendship and you have become obsessed by it. Not a day goes by where she is not in your thoughts and in your posts and it has been years. You need to get healthy and move on for your own mental health and well being. If you ever want to have healthy relationships and friendships with other females, you will need to work through the issues you have tied up around Inigo and let it go.

it might be a friendship. i can't lose hope. i just can't. if i lose hope than i am nothing. i mean losing hope overall, not with that one person.
 
The thing with therapy is that you have to 'mitmach'. ie, you have to actively participate. For it to be effective. Same with anything really.

You can lead a horse to water... etc
Just replying to this cos these are the words best to describe my response to the above
 
you should check out the informative off topic thread.

Sending me to read your posts on reddit really isn't needed. This isn't about proving anything to me. At the end of the day this is not about me this is about you and you being healthy and you being true to yourself. This is about you asking yourself if what you are doing is healthy for yourself and helping you?

It is about you being able to say that I want to know that there is hope overall, and if I can't do it on my own then maybe I need some help to find a way to find it. Its about you finding that it quite nice to spend more time talking with someone than talking about someone when a friendship is genuine.
 
Sending me to read your posts on reddit really isn't needed. This isn't about proving anything to me. At the end of the day this is not about me this is about you and you being healthy and you being true to yourself. This is about you asking yourself if what you are doing is healthy for yourself and helping you?

It is about you being able to say that I want to know that there is hope overall, and if I can't do it on my own then maybe I need some help to find a way to find it. Its about you finding that it quite nice to spend more time talking with someone than talking about someone when a friendship is genuine.

So true.
 
inigo was the only genuine friendship i ever had
And THEREFORE... Therapy!!

I don't mean it meanly. Physical health we see specialists. Legal issues we see specialists. Financial iseues/health we see specialists. Mental health we see specialists.
 
inigo was the only genuine friendship i ever had
Unfortunately for you the one person you claim is a genuine friend is not one of the two here who actually cares enough about you to be concerned about your well-being. Like moose I don't mean to be mean or scary, I come from a place of concern for you.
 
And THEREFORE... Therapy!!

I don't mean it meanly. Physical health we see specialists. Legal issues we see specialists. Financial iseues/health we see specialists. Mental health we see specialists.

Why is it mentally unhealthy for me to only have had one genuine friendship in my entire life?
 
Unfortunately for you the one person you claim is a genuine friend is not one of the two here who actually cares enough about you to be concerned about your well-being. Like moose I don't mean to be mean or scary, I come from a place of concern for you.

Well if you look over her last few posts on this forum there is a reason she isn't here anymore and it has nothing to do with me.
 
Reepbot. If you're that stubborn... Do whatever. Really.

But pining over Inigo belongs in Therapy territory.
 
She is someone you no longer talk to and haven't for months. She hasn't referred to you as a friend in years yet you think it will be mentally healthy to be obsessively talking about her and thinking about her for every day for large chunks of your day every day the rest of your life? I am not saying forget her or the friendship i am saying getting some tools to help you respect it for what it was keeping it as a memory you visit sometimes might make it easier to see where other new genuine friendships might be should you want one.
 
She is someone you no longer talk to and haven't for months. She hasn't referred to you as a friend in years yet you think it will be mentally healthy to be obsessively talking about her and thinking about her for every day for large chunks of your day every day the rest of your life? I am not saying forget her or the friendship i am saying getting some tools to help you respect it for what it was keeping it as a memory you visit sometimes might make it easier to see where other new genuine friendships might be should you want one.

You should really really really really really look at her last few posts. Like really look and think about it. Like really really think about it. If you don't come to the same conclusion I have then I have misjudged your character.
 
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